My Sorority Pledge? I Swore Off Sisterhood

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

They make GOOD money, but it seems like her house was full of girls whose daddies were presidents of oil companies or CFOs of Microsoft. There's a difference between being extremely comfortable and being able to afford ANYTHING you want on a whim.

That's what I surmised. The look was because he was ONLY a dentist.

[PM_Mama00]

Were dentists making that great of money back then? Seems like with all the dental cosmetic surgeries and alll the things you can do with teeth these days are newer and more expensive.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

Were dentists making that great of money back then?

Yes, because insurance companies weren't as stingy and restrictive regarding treatment back then, as they are now.
Due to this, a lot of dentists no longer take "assignment" (i.e. the norm is fast becoming where the patient must pay the dentist and then get reimbursed [usually partially, not fully] from the insurance company).

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

They make GOOD money, but it seems like her house was full of girls whose daddies were presidents of oil companies or CFOs of Microsoft. There's a difference between being extremely comfortable and being able to afford ANYTHING you want on a whim.

That makes total sense.

[fantASTic]

Yeah, I couldn't find it. Want to link?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

Yeah, I couldn't find it. Want to link?

http://jezebel.com/gossip/mean-girls/-329425.php

I almost missed it the second time I looked at it...

[AlethiaSi]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

http://jezebel.com/gossip/mean-girls/-329425.php

I almost missed it the second time I looked at it...

btw how did I not know that this website existed? I like!

/end hijack ... too tired to respond intelligently to topic

[Little32]

Is it just me or is this thread a very interesting case study?

[James]

Was she actually initiated when she was forced out or a pledge? I got the impression the frat guy was a pledge.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by James

Was she actually initiated when she was forced out or a pledge? I got the impression the frat guy was a pledge.

It seems to me that she must have been a pledge. I don't know of too many sisterhoods that would just throw her out. However, I don't know of when pledges or new members as we call them now, would be living in the house... The whole story is a bit weird. I don't know what sisterhood it was, so I have no idea of what their rules are or were.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

It seems to me that she must have been a pledge. I don't know of too many sisterhoods that would just throw her out. However, I don't know of when pledges or new members as we call them now, would be living in the house... The whole story is a bit weird. I don't know what sisterhood it was, so I have no idea of what their rules are or were.

A lot of schools had bed rush back in the day--each sorority's quota was the number of beds available in the house for new members--and the pledges moved right into the house after rush.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by carnation

A lot of schools had bed rush back in the day--each sorority's quota was the number of beds available in the house for new members--and the pledges moved right into the house after rush.

Thank you Carnation!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by carnation

A lot of schools had bed rush back in the day--each sorority's quota was the number of beds available in the house for new members--and the pledges moved right into the house after rush.

How long were pledge periods? She mentions that it was two months before the "ledge" incident happened, and then a few weeks later when she was put on probation.

[Ilaria Ame]

i don't feel bad for this woman. sorry if that makes me sound like a cold bitch. we've all made mistakes and those of us who have taken responsibility for them and dealt with them have moved on. she feels like nothing was her fault and because of this, has victimized herself to a point of not trusting women. sure, the sorority sisters were not good people. she was innocent and didn't know any better. but if after all that happened to her she still can't take responsibility and recognize that continuing in the sorority after her sisters allowed a fraternity brother to treat her like that was a mistake, it's her own issue.

p.s. and before the question is asked, i've been in a situation like hers before, except with "friends" not sorority sisters. i'm from a small town and led a very sheltered life until college. i too lost my virginity very soon after started school. and later, after i willingly got drunk to fit in and was taken advantage of at a party without a word of protest from my "friends" i never spoke to any of them again. i at least had enough sense to realize that i didn't have to be like that; i could turn my life around and expect people to earn my trust rather than just give it away or in her case, never give it again.

[ilovemyglo]

I went through quite a bit of trauma throughout my early education... basically from grades 4-12. Constant bullying and constant harassment- and after all these years and as great as my life is now, I run into some of those "kids" that treated me that wa.y They come up and act all excited to see me and for some reason it just brings back all that shame and fear I had as a child.

Those kinds of experiences stay with you, and even though you may think you are past them, you still are haunted.

I think even the most successful people that have had experiences like this probably feel the same way.

[Low C Sharp]

many of us SAID she should seek professional help

She may have sought professional help already; the article doesn't say that she's never tried. And even if she gets help in the future, that doesn't mean it will work. There's no penicillin that cures rape.

she feels like nothing was her fault

Which part of the story was her fault? The part where she was raped, or the part where she stayed within the only community she knew at a huge university 1800 miles from home?
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