I'm just too embarrassed when we...(not for the sensitive)

[TotallyWicked]

I work with kids obviously and bluntly put some of their relatives are just straight bootleg...the kids actually hang their head in shame when one of their folks comes and pick them up...How are you gonna come pick your kid up (this is an older brother), with blue joggers almost by your knees and pink crocs showing off your crusty feet...needless to say my co-workers and I had a ball raggin on him LOL

We have nights where we get to meet the families..a potluck, why, at our last 'night', did one mother take OUR ENTIRE TRAY of chicken saying "this is for my cousin who couldn't be here, my daughter, my sister my husband" (when her husband was actually there waiting still on his first plate (LMAO); the other families were definitely perturbed at that mother.

We gave tours this past weekend and we were showing my school..it was also an open house (MIND YOU WE ARE THE ONLY MINORITIES IN A GOOD 1/2 MILE RADIUS), well we get propaganda for them about the school and their desired major,we take alot of info...and one of the kids goes by one of the dell computers and acts like she's yanking it out and tells her sister "unplug it from the back" I shoot her a look like "You are setting us back to the colonization era", and she says "Well you know us Mexicans love free S***" IN FRONT OF ALL THE TOUR GROUPS ALL OF WHOM WERE DOMINANTLY WHITE.....i seriously felt like running into the street in front of the speeding bus!

Again with our kids...Halloween is the 'holiday' I dread for various reasons (for the kids) and one of our kids confirmed my fears and left me red when someone on the street [an older Black woman] (as we trick or treated with them), asked me on the side "why do alot of minority folks let their kids dress up like hoochies? Don't they know it looks bad on us?" This little girl, 4th grader, came dressed as a 'sexy pirate' (YOU'RE IN 4th GRADE...SEXY SHOULD NOT...REPEAT NOT BE IN YOUR VOCABULARY). Showed up to our program with her skirt waaaay above knee level...if she sat wrong things would show, a low cut shirt and makeup smeared all over her face (real dark little girl with bright blue eyeshadow and LOUD red lipstick) with some humongous (sp?) open toed high heels...saying "My momma thought this was so cute..my older sister is a sexy flight attendant" needless to say I made wear that long old jacket over that horrid costume...yes I did 'ruin' (her words) her Halloween experience...but someone's gotta act like the parent...mind you she's the daughter of the same mother who took our entire chicken tray*SMH*

[TotallyWicked]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAIN_w026aY

This reminds me of a trip we took senior yr of high school to the Cook County Courthouse....it embarassed me as the other school there were straight from the burbs and they took the behavior in the room as representative of the neighborhood...which isn't far from where I grew up (and I was the only person from that area )

[TotallyWicked]

I got a question for all of you...do you think it's only embarrassing when it's done around people who are not your race? Around one's own? Or anyone?

I get perturbed the most with people acting a fool INTENTIONALLY around other people, I think this only (in the eyes of the beholder), solidifies all the stereotypes about the group, I've actually apologized for someone of my folks' behavior even if I didn't know that person

[TotallyWicked]

I was so embarrassed today at my sister's graduation seeing my fellow Latinos acting a plum fool when their graduates came up.

What's worse, my sister's school is very diverse..like extremely and there are folks from all over the world, many of the names called we African, Arabic, and Asian...why the hell did my mom have to say OUT LOUD "what the hell kind of name is that?!"

Being that my sister was one of the last called up, I went to the hallway to prevent myself from hearing any more of that nonsense...adding onto that my dad was mimicking the Arabic names and he knows damn well most of my friends have Arabic names due to their religion or ethnicity

I love my folks but they can be straight up ignorant of other cultures sometimes!

some other Latin folks were being waaay too rowdy and I even heard a lady 3 seats above me say "They're being way too loud, are all Mexicans like that?!", some of the folks were yelling things out in Spanish that were completely inappropriate like "Yeah you can get a white girl with that degree now!", I seriously wanted to DIE right then and there....adding onto that the hood Latinos yelling out "yeah that's right that's my N**** Carlos, I see you n****"!

[MsFoxyLoxy77]

Skimpy Prom Dresses

I went to a public high school and there were some girls there that just did not choose to dress appropriately. My prom was filled with girls ardoned with prom "dresses" that were practically two piece. I was and still am embarassed when I see women of African descent dressed blatantly inappropriate, the perception of black beauty is already so fragile...

[MissCaramella]

Originally Posted by MsFoxyLoxy77

Skimpy Prom Dresses

I went to a public high school and there were some girls there that just did not choose to dress appropriately. My prom was filled with girls ardoned with prom "dresses" that were practically two piece. I was and still am embarassed when I see women of African descent dressed blatantly inappropriate, the perception of black beauty is already so fragile...

Another example... and what's more, people are standing in the background like it's Fashion Week or something! We could do so much better.

[IlovemyAKA]

These prom dresses are discussed in detail in this thread...

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...=18056&page=38

[naturaldiscretn]

Originally Posted by TotallyWicked

I was so embarrassed today at my sister's graduation seeing my fellow Latinos acting a plum fool when their graduates came up.

What's worse, my sister's school is very diverse..like extremely and there are folks from all over the world, many of the names called we African, Arabic, and Asian...why the hell did my mom have to say OUT LOUD "what the hell kind of name is that?!"

Being that my sister was one of the last called up, I went to the hallway to prevent myself from hearing any more of that nonsense...adding onto that my dad was mimicking the Arabic names and he knows damn well most of my friends have Arabic names due to their religion or ethnicity

I love my folks but they can be straight up ignorant of other cultures sometimes!

some other Latin folks were being waaay too rowdy and I even heard a lady 3 seats above me say "They're being way too loud, are all Mexicans like that?!", some of the folks were yelling things out in Spanish that were completely inappropriate like "Yeah you can get a white girl with that degree now!", I seriously wanted to DIE right then and there....adding onto that the hood Latinos yelling out "yeah that's right that's my N**** Carlos, I see you n****"!

I can imagine how embarrassed you must have been.

*SMH* at those prom dresses. We have got to do better!

[TotallyWicked]

students who preach inaccurate 'facts' about their history to people who don't know it.

prime example my soc class, there is only one Black student (he was mixed with Mexican), the prof asked what "black culture" was in order to prove how much assignment has been given to Blacks/African Americans and how essentialized these assignments are...some kid says 'rap' ...I say 'religious institutions like the A.M.E. church and the Nation of Islam"...this dude..again keep in mind he is the only Black student in class and the class is full of white freshmen from isolated areas of the country...


he goes on to say "but the Nation of Islam came out of rap music so they intertwine" I am like I couldn't tell him anything cause it would've seemed like I was trying to teach him about his own history, I eventually told him it was inaccurate and he took it lightly, the white students responded with 'wow, I did not know that!'..so now they're going around thinking the NOI is a product of rap music *SMH* The Nation of Islam has been around since the 1930's...Rap came about in the 80's brotha!!! KNOW YOUR FACTS!

[rndiva1908]

I've been a frequent lurker on this site, but I felt compelled to post after reading some of these comments. I also have too many experiences to count, but I wanted to share something my mom encountered just last weekend...

My mom went to the nail salon and while she was being serviced, in walks a woman yelling across the shop that she'd like a "pedicurrr and manicurrr". The asian gentlemen kindly asked her to take a seat and she replies.."Oh...and I want a fake nail on both of my big toes". My mom puts her head down to hide her embarrassment and contain her laughter. The asian gentlemen could not hold his and looks at him and yells.."What the hell you laughin' at???"

And just yesterday, I realized how some of us refuse to wear maternity clothes even when our bodies say otherwise. I'm in graduate school and there's a girl in my class that looks like should could deliver at anyday. She had on a juicy couture tracksuit, with belly and buttcrack out everywhere. I was so embarrassed...nobody wants to see that mess! There is no excuse considering that even Target makes nice, affordable, and fashionable maternity clothes. I even saw a lady once strolling in the mall, belly out for miles with a halter top on. It wasn't the halter top that disgust me so much, it was the fact the she had on NO BRA and was "lactating" through her top all while strolling like she was auditioning for ANTM! Before seeing her, I was going to stop at Ms. Field's cookies before calling it a day. But once I saw that, I immediately lost my appetite....after vomiting in my mouth of course!

[BabyBlue91]

Yesterday I was walking back to my office from a training session where I witnessed part of the following exchange:

My building is adjacent to the parking lot for a newspaper. An employee for the paper was trying to turn in to report to work, but no ... one of our folk was blocking the driveway with his Cadillac and was positively indignant when the person from the paper asked him to pull up, talking about some, "I don't have anywhere to park"! Like that's supposed to be the other guy's problem!

I watched this dialogue ensue for several minutes (yes, I know I'm wrong too, LOL) while traffic continued to build behind them, and then the guy finally pulled up. I really thought the cops were going to have to be called. I have a relationship with the paper and I thought about notifying their front desk myself. Sheesh!