One Person - Two Sororities

[AOII BAMA MOM]

I personally have never heard of anyone ever doing this and don't currently know of anyone that would. I know that the National Panhellenic Conference states that one is ineligible to do this if they have already been initiated into another sorority at another school. But are there any checkpoints in place that once her name is submitted that her name would appear somewhere and therefore be redflagged? I agree with the comment about who would want to live their life in such a lie--but was just curious as to whether it could be done or if there are measures in place to prevent that from happening.

[REE1993]

Originally Posted by AOII BAMA MOM

I personally have never heard of anyone ever doing this and don't currently know of anyone that would. I know that the National Panhellenic Conference states that one is ineligible to do this if they have already been initiated into another sorority at another school. But are there any checkpoints in place that once her name is submitted that her name would appear somewhere and therefore be redflagged? I agree with the comment about who would want to live their life in such a lie--but was just curious as to whether it could be done or if there are measures in place to prevent that from happening.

Whenever there is a post like this, I wonder why someone is asking the question. Mere curiosity I can see, but a follow up with a disclaimer usually raises red flags in my book.

Not accusing anyone here, but may I (politely) ask why you are interested? (if it's none of my business, you can say so!)

[AOII BAMA MOM]

Originally Posted by REE1993

Whenever there is a post like this, I wonder why someone is asking the question. Mere curiosity I can see, but a follow up with a disclaimer usually raises red flags in my book.

Not accusing anyone here, but may I (politely) ask why you are interested? (if it's none of my business, you can say so!)

SURE ENOUGH!! As soon as I decided to ask this question out of curiosity ---I knew it, I knew it that someone was going to question my sincerity which is why i threw in the disclaimer. If you must know--this is why I asked the question--I was out to lunch with a group of my friends whose daughters all went to different schools this fall as freshman and pledged different sororities. All of us are so pleased with the choices that our daughters made especially me. My daughter is thrilled with her sorority and her school and will be there for all four years. As we shared our daughter's rush stories with each other--someone brought up the question about dual memberships. Ergo--my curiosity. Nothing more Nothing more. I appreciate you asking me politely.

[Buttonz]

Someone suggested *100% jokingly* that I go through rush @ JWU and see where I ended up *if I even ended up with a bid*. My answer was that it would be to easy to tell that I am a Greek already, because I know way to much about Greek life and NPC rules that I couldn't hide it if I tried.

Plus the fact that I wore (and still do *looks down @ my shirt*) letters all the time

[REE1993]

Originally Posted by AOII BAMA MOM

SURE ENOUGH!! As soon as I decided to ask this question out of curiosity ---I knew it, I knew it that someone was going to question my sincerity which is why i threw in the disclaimer. If you must know--this is why I asked the question--I was out to lunch with a group of my friends whose daughters all went to different schools this fall as freshman and pledged different sororities. All of us are so pleased with the choices that our daughters made especially me. My daughter is thrilled with her sorority and her school and will be there for all four years. As we shared our daughter's rush stories with each other--someone brought up the question about dual memberships. Ergo--my curiosity. Nothing more Nothing more. I appreciate you asking me politely.

Thanks for the explanation!

[AlexMack]

I have an ex-sister who is still a friend who transferred shortly after initiating. She was very unhappy with my chapter and wanted nothing to do with them after she transferred schools. Now she went through recruitment with some friends at her new school with no intention on taking a bid or even expecting one. Strangely enough, she fell in love with one chapter and they extended her a bid. She badly wanted to take it and asked me for counsel.
I told her there probably wasn't any way they could find out but it is a small world and something could slip. She postponed her bid a semester, disaffiliated from my sorority (apparently a very easy process) and was prepared to take the bid but then changed her mind because nursing is such a demanding major. So I think it's possible as long as you're careful. It may be a small world but when your old chapter doesn't speak to her anymore, that's one big hurdle. She probably could have pulled it off but she would have been living a lie. However she's my friend so I told her I'd support her no matter what after telling her all of the above.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AOII BAMA MOM

SURE ENOUGH!! As soon as I decided to ask this question out of curiosity ---I knew it, I knew it that someone was going to question my sincerity which is why i threw in the disclaimer. If you must know--this is why I asked the question--I was out to lunch with a group of my friends whose daughters all went to different schools this fall as freshman and pledged different sororities. All of us are so pleased with the choices that our daughters made especially me. My daughter is thrilled with her sorority and her school and will be there for all four years. As we shared our daughter's rush stories with each other--someone brought up the question about dual memberships. Ergo--my curiosity. Nothing more Nothing more. I appreciate you asking me politely.

It's an interesting conversation topic. I had wondered if NPC had a database of all members that could be cross-checked with PNMs at every campus, but apparently not. I think irishpipes would be good for the job.

[lyrica9]

There's a girl that went to my school and was in a chapter here, and then transferred her sophomore year and joined a different sorority. My impression is that no one told her it was against the rules, because she seems to still be on good terms with her pledge sisters here.

As much as it comes up, I don't think collegiate members are well informed as far as NPC rules and trying to join other groups. I say this because there have been countless times when members of several different sororities have talked about transferring and rushing again, and they argue with me that they can join a different sorority.

I've also heard confusion about the one year rule. Somehow the "you cannot pledge another sorority on your campus for one year after you have received a bid but not been initiatied" gets translated into "if you wait a year you can join a different sorority" in some people's minds.

[DGTess]

Originally Posted by lyrica9

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As much as it comes up, I don't think collegiate members are well informed as far as NPC rules and trying to join other groups. I say this because there have been countless times when members of several different sororities have talked about transferring and rushing again, and they argue with me that they can join a different sorority.

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This may be right. Years ago sororities had long enough pledge periods that you could learn your own rules/culture/history/ethics and learn the panhellenic as well. Of course, that was when some schools could still just have panhel as an information resource; they didn't run things.

[BadCat25]

I know this is heresy but I see nothing wrong if someone were to transfer to another college that either did not have a chapter of her GLO or the local chapter at her new school would not accept her as a member if she resigned from her GLO and joined another. There is no harm to anyone. People change schools, jobs, religions, husbands and even countries all the time. Same school I understand but a different one I don't. Its an antiquated rule that should be changed.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by lyrica9

There's a girl that went to my school and was in a chapter here, and then transferred her sophomore year and joined a different sorority. My impression is that no one told her it was against the rules, because she seems to still be on good terms with her pledge sisters here.

As much as it comes up, I don't think collegiate members are well informed as far as NPC rules and trying to join other groups. I say this because there have been countless times when members of several different sororities have talked about transferring and rushing again, and they argue with me that they can join a different sorority.

I've also heard confusion about the one year rule. Somehow the "you cannot pledge another sorority on your campus for one year after you have received a bid but not been initiatied" gets translated into "if you wait a year you can join a different sorority" in some people's minds.

We're very clear with our girls. We are careful to word it so that they understand pledgeship is flexible, but once you are go through that initiation ceremony, you're done.