Long Distance Relationships

[DSTCHAOS]

I'm not a LDR person because I require too much attention. After long days and long weeks of work, I don't want to be relegated to phone coversations or waiting for the person to come in town.

I tried one after I graduated from college but keeping in touch took too much effort and it took away from the relationship stuff. I certainly wouldn't have done an LDR in college because college was a time to meet new people and see new options.

My only suggestion is to keep the lines of communication open and plan as many get togethers as possible. Most importantly, stay focused on school and what you need to do. That will keep your mind and time occupied.

[REE1993]

One pitfall of any long distance relationship is that when DO see each other, you are often getting both of you on your best behavior. As in "date" behavior. You aren't together every day, and it's often the day-to-day things that tend to cause riffs.

The most important thing is to be honest. Honesty about more than where you were last night. I mean about feelings. It's easy to hid that when you don't see each other every day. You know, sis, keeping it real.

Do either/both of you see the relationship as continuing after you graduate? Do you both see it as long-term? On the flip side, are you potentially putting off getting yourself out into the world, because you have a safety net x miles away? You are still young, and you may be tying yourself down during a time when people usually "find themselves", yada yada.

Good luck, and I hope that your relationship gives you more joys than tears! (hey, ya gotta have both!!)

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by REE1993

One pitfall of any long distance relationship is that when DO see each other, you are often getting both of you on your best behavior. As in "date" behavior. You aren't together every day, and it's often the day-to-day things that tend to cause riffs.

I call LDR's "honeymoons."

I laugh whenever people talk about how they never had drama with their exes. A lot of times, these were honeymoon relationships and you didn't get the real person.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I'm not a LDR person ... I don't want to be relegated to phone coversations or waiting for the person to come in town.

I'm with you, Chaos.

I tried the LD thing twice, and neither time did it end well. I always figured if it was meant to be, it would happen when we were both in the same place. If it wasn't meant to be, well... it was nice knowing you. It just never felt the way a relationship should feel; it was more like we were friends instead of gf/bf. There's only so much comfort a phone conversation can provide when you've had a bad day; hugs work much better. It's not much fun hugging a phone.

But, to those of you who can do it, my hat's off to you. I just never cared much for it.

Good luck, UGAmmaSig.