Senusret I needs advice

[LatinaAlumna]

I think you handled it well--brief and polite.

I don't know the details of your relationship, but it's been my observation (in my own life and the lives of others) that when exes want to come around, it's usually because they want to manipulate you. Some people think that if they "throw you a bone" every now and then, they will keep you interested *just in case* they ever decide they want you back. It's not right, and I admit that I've been on both sides of this coin.

[Senusret I]

Thanks!

And you're right. In this case, because we haven't seen each other in two years, it's really hard to say what he really wanted. But I had to be honest with myself and LISTEN to his words and his actions.

Now I have this OTHER love.... I call him "the great love of my life so far" LOL.... he is a prime example of what you describe. We went on and off for three years -- THREE YEARS -- before I realized he was just throwing me bones because he liked how I treated him.

He and I are very good friends now and when we tell each other "I love you" we mean it. But happy endings like that are rare and I realize that me and the ex from the original post are not going to have (nor should we have) that kind of relationship.