Ole Miss Rush/Recruitment~2007

[Ole Miss Phi Mu]

Originally Posted by junebug1357

Thank you so much for all your input it has definitely helped, but I have a few more questions. I'm sorry to bother you guys again, but having never been in a sorority myself I am completely clueless to the whole process.
1. say that she does decide to drop does that sort of put a "black mark" on her during the recruitment process
2. all of her good friends are in different sororities does that help her chances at all

By dropping a sorority and re-rushing doesn't necessarily mean she will get a "black mark" on her, but it will be a huge factor on whether or not they will extend her a bid. Also, just because she has good friends in different sororities doesn't mean that the sorority will give her a bid.

[FSUZeta]

when i joined my sorority, i felt very overwhelmed and not really a part of it, but i stuck it out. homecoming came and i helped with the float, i started sitting in the sorority block at the football games, sisters living in the house came downstairs and visited with me when i had door/phone duty. i made an effort to go over everyday for lunch and dinner. it got better, but it took some work and a little time, and it was so worth it!

if your daughter has any pledge sisters living in her dorm, she should make a point of getting together with them to walk to and from the house. she should pop into their room for a visit sometime. making a huge chapter smaller will help her to feel more a part of it. she should also share her feelings with her pledge trainer/new member coordinator. i'm confident that that sister can allay your daughters concerns, and give her some extra attention if that is what she needs. it is too soon for her to be dropping out, but if her feelings don't change, i would suggest that she resign before her initiation. i hope that doesn't happen, but that way the avenue would still be open for her to go thru recruitment next fall.

[Benzgirl]

Right after pledging, I went through the "doubt" too. But, the more I participated with my chapter and got past "perceptions", the more I felt the affirmation that I made the right decision.

Make sure she gives it a chance.