Advice on an awkward situation

[CiCi07]

Yes, I understand. And please don't think I take it lightly. I'm having doubts since there is an org out there who wants me as a member and I feel like I'm turning up my nose at them. Even if exactly what I wanted was the full collegiate experience, I'm not sure I could step up and be a great member. I guess I'm concurring with most of what I've read about why grad students shouldn't (for the most part) be active members. Yes, it's a stupid situation.

[AnchorAlumna]

First, they wouldn't have asked you to join if they didn't want you.
Second, why not talk to them about your limitations and their expectations? Couldn't hurt.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by CiCi07

Yes, I understand. And please don't think I take it lightly. I'm having doubts since there is an org out there who wants me as a member and I feel like I'm turning up my nose at them. Even if exactly what I wanted was the full collegiate experience, I'm not sure I could step up and be a great member. I guess I'm concurring with most of what I've read about why grad students shouldn't (for the most part) be active members. Yes, it's a stupid situation.

Honestly, a lot depends on the person, the chapter, and the school. If it's a school where the 1000 rushees are 95% freshmen, no. If it's a school where they have to pull teeth to get people to rush and women from all classes join, I would say go for it.

But if you have a bad feeling about the group - like they just want you for sake of numbers or something - just say no.