Bridal authority, how far should it go?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

Hey Sorors/Sistergreeks. I had an interesting conversation with a bride to be and I thought I'd post it here and see what you think. If you are a bridesmaid, maid of honor, etc., and the bride told you that she wants "her girls" to wear their hair in a bun with spiral curls but your hair is in a funky short cut so you can't really wear that unless you pay for a weave, do you wear your hair in the style the bride picked or do you risk upsetting the bride by wearing your own style? The same question applies for the dresses. Say its your BF that's getting married and she picks out a dress for you that is less than flattering to your figure. Do you go with her decision and wear the dress that's less than flattering for you or do you try to change her mind by looking at other dress options?

I say people take the wedding ceremonial crap way too seriously.

Let people choose from a variety of hairstyles that fit with the look you're going for. That would make it easy for someone with short hair to simply add accessories to it or whatever.

Always choose dresses that are flattering to every figures and allow people to choose from other forms and fits of the same color and style of dress.

I don't want anyone in my wedding feeling uncomfortable or looking a hot mess just because I'm stuck on stupid. The guests and wedding party are basically doing the bride and groom A FAVOR. No one's getting paid for it and people are usually spending a great deal of money (except for my bestfriend's wedding that cost me ZERO) and taking a lot of time out to attend and participate.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I say people take the wedding ceremonial crap way too seriously.

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That I TOOOOtally agree with. I know for me I had to wear a dress that I thought was not flattering to me at all for a friends wedding. I did gently ask her to reconsider but she was soooooooo insistent that the dress was thee most gorgeous dress ever. That would be true for a girl with a body type that is straight up and down with 0 curves and is a size 1-2. I on the other hand am a size 8 with curves so the dress made me look ridiculous! On one hand you don't want to upset your bride because this is a stressful time for her and why add to the stress. On the other hand, why should I have to look a fool for you to have your day. That was the first and last time that I would allow myself to wear something that was unflattering for me to appease someone else for their day.

Its a shame but I know of someone who told her cousin that she RUINED her wedding just because the cousin opted not to weave her hair to achieve the spiral curl and updo style that the bride chose for her wedding party. The bride even tried to make the cousin press her hair straight and curl it by having her stylist there when the cousin arrived to change into her dress ont he wedding day. The cousin opted to wear her natural hair in a style similar to the one the bride chose for the wedding party. It looked really gorgeous and it looked better than the rest of the wedding party to me. In that case, the cousin could not just quit the wedding party on the day of the wedding because that really would have messed things up for the bride. I was in shock at how serious these things are for some brides.