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Originally Posted by GatorDG
I am just so very sad. I have just talked to my daughter's friend that pledged a couple of weeks ago at ASU. She was so excited about being in a house, but as happens many times, feels like there is no connection. Her big sister has done nothing to try to help her really meet the actives or really get to know her, for that matter.  |
She's been involved with this sorority for less than a month. She's not going to be BFFs with everyone she meets the minute she meets them.
So she isn't close w/ her big so far - oh well, sometimes that happens. But it's not her big's job to introduce her to the actives or get involved. She has to do that for herself.
I know this is basically the same thing Jocelyn said, but there seems to be an epidemic this year of people thinking that the minute you get your bid your entire life changes and you have 30-200 instant best friends. I partly blame the fact that the pledge programs have been turned into touchy feely OMG you're the bestest time instead of a time to get to know your sisters, your sorority history and your campus Greek climate - and the fact that it was impressed on you that no one was going to hand this to you.
I'm not advocating hazing in any way but just because your NM manual says "from the beginning, we treat you like a sister" - that means as far as chapter operations. You can't legislate how people feel.
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