Is this right?

[Frienze2010]

Oh I'm for sure going...They were my top choice last year but I got cut after 19 party. How awkward is it that I'm going to a house that didnt really want me for whatever reason, I know a lot of it just has to do with numbers and quota, but really do they all keep notes of all the PNMs (not like I said or did anything nasty), I want to start this year of fresh. Also, I would never decline an invite just because of the show they are watching any chance to be in a house informally is great. I love meeting people, I'm known as the girl that just goes up to anyone and everyone and starts a conversation...but then as soon as I know they're in a house I freak, not like they are superhuman or anything, but its just really stressful for me and I start not acting like myself.

As for my guy friends..they call a girl that they've been friends with for awhile and are rather close, and they say hey, I know this really nice girl yadda yadda thats rushing is there anything you can do for her, as in going to dinners and such or you should meet her... Would it be odd if say 4 girls in a single house, get that same phone call from 4 different guy friends of mine. How would you look at that, is that normal? Could I just alert a few of the greek women that I personally know from high school that I'm rushing again. Basically i'm trying to get as much exposure and hang time with the different houses before rush begins...and I dont know of any Greek Women in any of my classes, and even if I did, could I ask them if they are having any informal meetings?

Thanks for your time on the million questions

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Frienze2010

Would it be odd if say 4 girls in a single house, get that same phone call from 4 different guy friends of mine. How would you look at that, is that normal?

I would look at that as "oh my God, leave us alone about this girl already, I don't want to hear her name anymore."

If it's a guy who's your REALLY good friend - not an acquaintance - not a party buddy - it's one thing for him to say to the women he knows in sororities, "Frienze is my friend and she's really great, and I'm pretty sure she's interested in rushing."

But quite frankly, if I kept hearing a girl's name from multiple guys (and never from other girls) I'd be a little leery of her. It almost seems like you're trading on your friendships with these guys to try to get into a sorority. Not to mention, girls in other sororities DO talk to each other, and if ABC, DEF and GHI all compare notes and find out that a giuy called them to talk you up...it's not going to look very good.

[violetpretty]

I agree with 33girl. It is good if you are really good friends with a guy to have him introduce you (and even better when they invite you to come meet them), but too many guys telling girls in the same sorority about you is definitely overkill.

ETA:

Originally Posted by Frienze2010

Oh I'm for sure going...They were my top choice last year but I got cut after 19 party. How awkward is it that I'm going to a house that didnt really want me for whatever reason, I know a lot of it just has to do with numbers and quota, but really do they all keep notes of all the PNMs (not like I said or did anything nasty).

Why was this group you top choice if you only went to one party? If I am correct in where you go to school, yes, it probably had a lot to do with numbers (not quota because said school doesn't do quota) and if you don't have anyone that knows you, likes you, and wants to keep you, you can easily get lost in the shuffle. However, they still cut you after round 1. Make sure you don't put all of your eggs in this basket because you could be cut again from this chapter, at any time.

Originally Posted by Frienze2010

As for my guy friends..they call a girl that they've been friends with for awhile and are rather close, and they say hey, I know this really nice girl yadda yadda thats rushing is there anything you can do for her, as in going to dinners and such or you should meet her... Would it be odd if say 4 girls in a single house, get that same phone call from 4 different guy friends of mine. How would you look at that, is that normal? Could I just alert a few of the greek women that I personally know from high school that I'm rushing again. Basically i'm trying to get as much exposure and hang time with the different houses before rush begins...and I dont know of any Greek Women in any of my classes, and even if I did, could I ask them if they are having any informal meetings?

I would think it is kind of odd if a guy called me JUST to say that his friend is rushing. If he were talking to a friend in person or on the phone for another reason, and brought you up in conversation, it would seem more natural to me. I think telling your friends from high school that you are rushing again would be a good idea.

[Drolefille]

I don't know about any other chapter, but at my chapter any notes that any sorority member made about PNMs are destroyed.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I don't know about any other chapter, but at my chapter any notes that any sorority member made about PNMs are destroyed.

Same for mine. I'd like to think that all chapters do the same.