Big/Lil

[mdvdg]

Hey girls. I've been visiting this site for a while but this is my first time to post. Tomorrow is our Big/Lil reveal and I'm really nervous. This will be my first time to take a little and I'm taking twins but I don't really know either of them. I'm worried I won't be able to connect to both of them right away and I want to be a really good big to both of them. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on what they think makes a good big. I'm sure everything will be fine but I'm still really nervous!!! Thanks for listening to me!!
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mdvdg

[dukedg]

I would say be understanding of them. Try to be a good listener and give helpful advice -- remember, they may be stressed about joining a sorority, figuring out how to be in college (if they are freshmen), etc.

I'm sure you will be great! Have fun at revealing and good luck!!

[notyouraverage]

It's kind of late now, but when I took a Little I didn't know very well, I made her a little picture album about me (that sounds so narcissistic!). It was of the other members of our sorority "family," people who were important in my life, things I hoped we'd do together... etc. Every other page had a photograph and something written, and of course, I tried to tie it all in to her and the little I knew about her. That way, she could easily know a few more things about me and have pictures to go with it.

If your Big is still around, ask for help from her. That way it's not like your new Littles are having to share you, but they are getting a whole new family of people who care about them. I like to plan little family parties. We'll all get together and color in Raggedy Ann themed coloring books on a Sunday afternoon, or this weekend we're visiting a local park that has a wildlife zoo. We've even gone to our university's free astronomy night!

If your Big's not still around, invite your best DG friend and her little to do things with you. You can start with cutesy things and feel them out for their interests (would they rather go see a concert, hear a poetry reading, or go to a fraternity party on a Friday night?) One thing that's super easy is to invite them to lunch or dinner at the house. Or if your schedule allows it, insist on driving them to class so they don't have to ride an icky bus.

Try to touch basis with each one at least two times a week - whether it's a facebook note, a phone call or inviting them out. If you're this worried about being a Big, I'm positive you'll be a great one!