But why are the NPHC groups so ... different???

[ealymc]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

ealymc,

If I were your brother, I would first decide on what kind of experience I was looking for.

When I was considering Greek life, belonging to a "black" fraternity was very important to me, BUT I still looked at all kinds of organizations. (For a very brief period I even considered LUL (La Unidad Latina, Lambda Upsilon Lambda)

But at the end of the day, I was in love with the notion of being part of an African American brotherhood.

Your brother might not be into that. I think Firehouse said in another thread that guys should just seek to be around the type of men they would enjoy being around. For me, those were Alphas.

I know that doesn't entirely answer your question.... put it to you like this. He should know in his heart whether he's looking for a cultural experience. If he is, THEN he should research the five NPHC fraternities' national websites. He might be able to narrow down his preferences that way.

When he approaches the members, he should approach them as potential friends, not potential brothers -- if his first conversation is about membership, that will be a turn off. (Or put him into a position of compromised liability for himself and the members)

If he engages them in average, friendly conversation, he might be able to decide if those are the kinds of guys he wants to be around fraternally. THEN, when he's made up his mind on his own, THEN he discloses his interest.

That's what I would do if I was HIM. If I was YOU, I'd just tell him that Sigma Nu was the only way. And if I was ME, and he was MY brother, I'd tell him he'd be disowned if he didn't pledge Alpha, lol

That would work if his school HAD Sigma Nu! LOL I really do feel like it's totally a personal decision and you find what feels right for you - after careful investigation. Thanks for the notes. I'll pass them on.