SPRING RUSH AT ALABAMA??

estherjb · #1 09-15-2007, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

NO. A sorority CANNOT offer bids after they've met quota and total.

Here's the thing....
I was OK with ignoring the Helicopter parents...I'm a parent myself, I can sympathize a little...but you're now helicoptering YOUR DAUGHTER'S FRIEND??? WHAT.THE.EFF.???

The questions you asked us should have been asked BY YOUR DAUGHTER to her sorority's MEMBERSHIP CHAIR...not by YOU on GREEKCHAT.

By the way... you WERE a Tri Delta??? Did you turn in your pin?

ETA: I realize I was harsh, and I'm sorry...but AOII BAMA MOM, have you not read ANYTHING else on here? The boards have not been favorable this year to moms who are spoon feeding their daughters and living vicariously.

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Originally Posted by AOII BAMA MOM

WOW I had not checked this thread in a while and was stunned by the unkind comments directed to me. I was simply inquiring about a Spring Rush at UA. No, my daughter did not ask me to come onto this site and find out. She merely asked me if I had ever heard of there being one. So, just for fun I thought that I would come here and ask. I was stunned by your response. FYI my daughter is doing just fine at Bama. She understands that going to college is more than just getting a degree its about learning life lessons that will prepare you for the "Real World." (without mommy and daddy). With regard to your surly comment about turning in my Tri Delta pledge pin, I obviously used the wrong sentence structure. I AM a Tri Delta and I WAS at the University of Georgia. I know that you don't care about this but these first posts that I have made on this site will be my last. You have given me the impression that this is not a friendly site for information.

I lost my first post which is probably just as well since I have preached a kindler, gentler GC but may I say I am appalled by the negative, judgmental nitpicking of some of you. What you consider as borderline psychotic parenting, AlphaFrog, I would consider courtesy on the part of AOPiBama Mom. Your criticisms of her were based on your assumptions which turned out to be incorrect, didn't they?

What is the deal with some of you? Why are you so bitter about what you term "heliparents". Were your own parents not there for you or so distant and removed that your resent other people whose parents are involved in their lives? Or were you raised by wolves? Based on your manners, I would guess the latter.

Lighten up and go find a witch hunt somewhere. Madame DeFarge is waiting for you.

UGAalum94 · #2 09-15-2007, 08:06 PM

Helicopter parents might ruin America if their weirdness becomes any more pervasive than it is.

They must be stopped.

It has nothing to do with the kind of parenting one received. It's interaction with the helicopters that make one realized the damage they can do.

(On the other hand, I don't think we need to be rude to people, but it's hard to take a lesson in politeness from someone who suggests that others were raised by wolves. "just sayin'" as the kids say.)

Cluey · #3 09-16-2007, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Helicopter parents might ruin America if their weirdness becomes any more pervasive than it is.

I hate to the be the bearer of bad news, but the "helicopter parents" are a trademark of the millenial generation. It seems as though we are in for quite a bit of this behavior and it may even get worse over the years. Sad, but true.

AlphaFrog · #4 09-16-2007, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by estherjb

Your criticisms of her were based on your assumptions which turned out to be incorrect, didn't they?

Actually, I consider it worse. It's 1000% characteristic of helimomming. If her daughter didn't ASK her to stick her nose in, why did she feel it necessary? I'm assuming she's got one of those daughters that doesn't realize that her mom is a helimom, because she's ALWAYS done EVERYTHING for her, and just doesn't know any other way.

My parents raised me so that by the time I got to highschool they didn't have to be worried about me. They knew I wasn't out getting into trouble, and they trusted me to take care of myself, and come to them if I had a problem. They came to a few music concerts and softball games and plays, but they didn't feel the need to be at every single one, and I didn't feel the need to have them there. When I got to college, they still came to a few of my events, but mainly allowed me my freedom. I called them when I've had job interviews to give me a couple practice questions or to run and idea by them for an outfit, but they would never DREAM of actually going to an interview with me. You can be a decent parent without being a helicopter.

Now, my own daughter is turning three. She came to me yesterday with a puzzle, wanting me to put it together for her. I started her out, by putting in a few of the corner pieces in, and then let her work on it. She stopped a few times, frustrated and asking me to do it for her...but I just told her that she was good, and she knew how and she smiled and kept right on working. I could have put it together for her, but what does that do for her?

AOII BAMA MOM · #5 09-16-2007, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Actually, I consider it worse. It's 1000% characteristic of helimomming. If her daughter didn't ASK her to stick her nose in, why did she feel it necessary? I'm assuming she's got one of those daughters that doesn't realize that her mom is a helimom, because she's ALWAYS done EVERYTHING for her, and just doesn't know any other way.

My parents raised me so that by the time I got to highschool they didn't have to be worried about me. They knew I wasn't out getting into trouble, and they trusted me to take care of myself, and come to them if I had a problem. They came to a few music concerts and softball games and plays, but they didn't feel the need to be at every single one, and I didn't feel the need to have them there. When I got to college, they still came to a few of my events, but mainly allowed me my freedom. I called them when I've had job interviews to give me a couple practice questions or to run and idea by them for an outfit, but they would never DREAM of actually going to an interview with me. You can be a decent parent without being a helicopter.

Now, my own daughter is turning three. She came to me yesterday with a puzzle, wanting me to put it together for her. I started her out, by putting in a few of the corner pieces in, and then let her work on it. She stopped a few times, frustrated and asking me to do it for her...but I just told her that she was good, and she knew how and she smiled and kept right on working. I could have put it together for her, but what does that do for her?

Congratulations--- you sound like the perfect Mom. I am so happy that you were able to find time to help your 3 year old with her puzzle with having posting 9,275 times on this website.

Regina Filangie · #6 09-16-2007, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Now, my own daughter is turning three. She came to me yesterday with a puzzle, wanting me to put it together for her. I started her out, by putting in a few of the corner pieces in, and then let her work on it. She stopped a few times, frustrated and asking me to do it for her...but I just told her that she was good, and she knew how and she smiled and kept right on working. I could have put it together for her, but what does that do for her?

How is giving your 3 y.o. the information she needed to do the puzzle herself any different than AOIIbamamom asking for information to give her daughter to help her with her situation?? The last time I checked AOIIbamamom was not intending to go down to UA and go through spring rush for her daughter's friend.