High School girl in college world

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by Renee Smith

I would hate to jeopardize my rushing next year, but can't imagine not hanging out with my new guy friends.

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a highschool girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a highschool girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

I'm totally with you on this one.... and I can't say I've had personal experience with the whole "high school girls hanging out w/ college fraternity guys" thing... but I think I'd probably see them as groupies too regardless of not getting physical with them or partying too much.

Originally Posted by Renee Smith

Thanks for all the replies. The University I attend is an SEC school and is fairly large. I am behaving myself at the Frat houses; no sex or heavy partying. I'm a pretty good girl. I'm just ready to start my college life and I am sick of the High School drama. My University will only let full time students rush. I was definitely disappointed I couldn't rush this year. I guess I have a lot of guy friends and only a few girl friends at this point. That may be the problem. I would hate to jeopardize my rushing next year, but can't imagine not hanging out with my new guy friends. I may check out other Universities also, I just wanted to go to my hometown University because a lot of my classmates are attending here also.

Soooo if you're "sick of HS drama" why would you want to go to school where your classmates are going? Maybe I misunderstood that... but it sounds like a school where lots of ppl from your HS are going? Even if you move clear across the country, there is always drama in college.

Just a thought.

[adpiucf]

I have also seen PNMs released for their summer activities-- they come up as first semester freshmen in the summertime. The campus is quiet, but the fraternity houses are still open, there are casual parties and nights out-- but just hanging out at the fraternity houses, I have seen those girls do and say things that has come back to bite them in the butt at recruitment time. And some of the girls probably didn't say or do anything-- they just created an unintentional perception that followed them to recruitment.

I hate to generalize, but you really have blown it if you're a senior in high school and you're already the fraternity house groupie... Guys talk, girls talk, people just start thinking things... High school drama has nothing on college. And the drama exists in the working world, too. You can't escape it. I think people are best off flying in under the radar.

I really think a PNM's best shot is go in as a first semester freshman with a clean, drama-free slate where you don't have any war stories to be shared and everyone sees you as a ladylike superstar with a lot to offer.

[jon1856]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a high school girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

Sad to say but NO.
As Jimmy Buffet wrote: "Fins to the left, fins to the right, your the only game in town." Or something close to that. Next on Singing Bee.....

Back to the point, this unfortunately is like upper class men and freshman women. And I posted about my own chapter about that awhile ago in RM.

The OP, IMVHO, should stay clear of any male living/social group.

And OP, write John ASAP and have your name changed if that is your real name.

[James]

Someone beat me to the reality check.

Everyone's situation is by definition unique, and human relationships can be complex . . .

However, the OP has to be aware that there are a lot of guys with very little . . uhm . . . whats the word? Scruples?

So there might be a lot of guys in the house that will regard you as a little sister type to be protected and amused, but there are also a lot of dorky desperate guys that will take whatever they think you are freely offering.

And fraternities in general seem to attract more than their fair share of dorky desperate guys.

Also, if you are thinking of the future, a lot of higher status males won't want much to do with you if you have been passed around 2 or 3 of their brothers, especially if those brothers are much lower on the social totem poll than they are, which is probably the case if they are messing with someone still more or less in high school.

I have seen that happen where an otherwise pretty, intelligent girl will be skipped over by guys because of who she used to date or fool around with.

As far as how it will hurt your Rush . . . Come on. You are a girl. You know the deal. Girls are looking for reasons to love or hate you. Hanging out and partying with boys they know (and maybe sort of regard as theirs) seems to always get negative feedback.

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a highschool girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

[jon1856]

Originally Posted by James

Someone beat me to the reality check.

Everyone's situation is by definition unique, and human relationships can be complex . . .

However, the OP has to be aware that there are a lot of guys with very little . . uhm . . . whats the word? Scruples?

So there might be a lot of guys in the house that will regard you as a little sister type to be protected and amused, but there are also a lot of dorky desperate guys that will take whatever they think you are freely offering.

And fraternities in general seem to attract more than their fair share of dorky desperate guys.

Also, if you are thinking of the future, a lot of higher status males won't want much to do with you if you have been passed around 2 or 3 of their brothers, especially if those brothers are much lower on the social totem poll than they are, which is probably the case if they are messing with someone still more or less in high school.

I have seen that happen where an otherwise pretty, intelligent girl will be skipped over by guys because of who she used to date or fool around with.

As far as how it will hurt your Rush . . . Come on. You are a girl. You know the deal. Girls are looking for reasons to love or hate you. Hanging out and partying with boys they know (and maybe sort of regard as theirs) seems to always get negative feedback.

I would add to your list: Silver Tonged Devils.