In my chapter when I was an active member we had a Pi Pal until we recieved our diamond sisters at our sisterhood retreat. Now the girls that are actives get there diamond sister on bid day I think b/c our International office thought that was a form of hazing. I liked not knowing who my big was until sisterhood retreat b/c it was a total suprise and we were giving clues along the way to trick us.
We had a big sister of the week every week until right before initiation - then we had a big sister reveal.
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