High School girl in college world - Page 2

AlphaFrog · #1 09-15-2007, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a highschool girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

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Originally Posted by putang clan

We need you to post a picture.

Point made.

kathykd2005 · #2 09-15-2007, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by putang clan

We need you to post a picture.

*gags*

#3 09-13-2007, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

my daughter's dorm roommate from last year is from auburn. she told us that a lot of her h.s. classmates went to fraternity parties while in h.s., and it sabotaged a few of the girls sorority aspirations.

the way she explained it, the college girls look at the h.s. girls like they are fraternity groupies; little girls trying to pretend they are big college girls. not a good thing.

I'll admit, I was one of those college girls who used to look down on the HS girls at the frat house. Some of them decided to rush sororities by the time they got to college, and they were blacklisted immediately. They were particularly interested in the locals because when I was there, AGD didn't really hold events with the local fraternity. I used to hang out there on the weekends because I was 19, they had free "beverages," and I was good friends with several of the brothers as my cousin is a member.

To the OP, regardless of how innocent you behave at the parties, that won't change how the girls will look at you. I know what it's like to be a 19 year old sorority girl who labels the HS girls "groupies". Don't be in such a rush to join the college world just because of high school drama because you know what? Drama follows you to college!

That said, we won't tell you to quit hanging out with your new guy friends at the house parties. However, are these guys worth jeopardizing your chances for rush next year? You'll make tons of new friends while you're in college. Don't just limit yourself to this one group.

jwright25 · #4 09-13-2007, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

If this is your real name, I recommend you change it.

Cosign.

And to answer your primary question (which most everyone else has), I have seen PNMs released for doing these activities just in the summer preceding freshman year. I can only imagine what a whole year's worth of partying and hanging out at fraternity houses would do.

AlphaFrog · #5 09-13-2007, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Renee Smith

I would hate to jeopardize my rushing next year, but can't imagine not hanging out with my new guy friends.

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a highschool girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

texas*princess · #6 09-13-2007, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a highschool girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

I'm totally with you on this one.... and I can't say I've had personal experience with the whole "high school girls hanging out w/ college fraternity guys" thing... but I think I'd probably see them as groupies too regardless of not getting physical with them or partying too much.

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Originally Posted by Renee Smith

Thanks for all the replies. The University I attend is an SEC school and is fairly large. I am behaving myself at the Frat houses; no sex or heavy partying. I'm a pretty good girl. I'm just ready to start my college life and I am sick of the High School drama. My University will only let full time students rush. I was definitely disappointed I couldn't rush this year. I guess I have a lot of guy friends and only a few girl friends at this point. That may be the problem. I would hate to jeopardize my rushing next year, but can't imagine not hanging out with my new guy friends. I may check out other Universities also, I just wanted to go to my hometown University because a lot of my classmates are attending here also.

Soooo if you're "sick of HS drama" why would you want to go to school where your classmates are going? Maybe I misunderstood that... but it sounds like a school where lots of ppl from your HS are going? Even if you move clear across the country, there is always drama in college.

Just a thought.

adpiucf · #7 09-13-2007, 07:49 PM

I have also seen PNMs released for their summer activities-- they come up as first semester freshmen in the summertime. The campus is quiet, but the fraternity houses are still open, there are casual parties and nights out-- but just hanging out at the fraternity houses, I have seen those girls do and say things that has come back to bite them in the butt at recruitment time. And some of the girls probably didn't say or do anything-- they just created an unintentional perception that followed them to recruitment.

I hate to generalize, but you really have blown it if you're a senior in high school and you're already the fraternity house groupie... Guys talk, girls talk, people just start thinking things... High school drama has nothing on college. And the drama exists in the working world, too. You can't escape it. I think people are best off flying in under the radar.

I really think a PNM's best shot is go in as a first semester freshman with a clean, drama-free slate where you don't have any war stories to be shared and everyone sees you as a ladylike superstar with a lot to offer.

jon1856 · #8 09-13-2007, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a high school girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

Sad to say but NO.
As Jimmy Buffet wrote: "Fins to the left, fins to the right, your the only game in town." Or something close to that. Next on Singing Bee.....

Back to the point, this unfortunately is like upper class men and freshman women. And I posted about my own chapter about that awhile ago in RM.

The OP, IMVHO, should stay clear of any male living/social group.

And OP, write John ASAP and have your name changed if that is your real name.

James · #9 09-13-2007, 09:17 PM

Someone beat me to the reality check.

Everyone's situation is by definition unique, and human relationships can be complex . . .

However, the OP has to be aware that there are a lot of guys with very little . . uhm . . . whats the word? Scruples?

So there might be a lot of guys in the house that will regard you as a little sister type to be protected and amused, but there are also a lot of dorky desperate guys that will take whatever they think you are freely offering.

And fraternities in general seem to attract more than their fair share of dorky desperate guys.

Also, if you are thinking of the future, a lot of higher status males won't want much to do with you if you have been passed around 2 or 3 of their brothers, especially if those brothers are much lower on the social totem poll than they are, which is probably the case if they are messing with someone still more or less in high school.

I have seen that happen where an otherwise pretty, intelligent girl will be skipped over by guys because of who she used to date or fool around with.

As far as how it will hurt your Rush . . . Come on. You are a girl. You know the deal. Girls are looking for reasons to love or hate you. Hanging out and partying with boys they know (and maybe sort of regard as theirs) seems to always get negative feedback.

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I hate to go all James on everyone....buuuut...

Can anyone really see a group of college guys wanting to be friends with a highschool girl for honorable reasons?? Honestly???

jon1856 · #10 09-13-2007, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by James

Someone beat me to the reality check.

Everyone's situation is by definition unique, and human relationships can be complex . . .

However, the OP has to be aware that there are a lot of guys with very little . . uhm . . . whats the word? Scruples?

So there might be a lot of guys in the house that will regard you as a little sister type to be protected and amused, but there are also a lot of dorky desperate guys that will take whatever they think you are freely offering.

And fraternities in general seem to attract more than their fair share of dorky desperate guys.

Also, if you are thinking of the future, a lot of higher status males won't want much to do with you if you have been passed around 2 or 3 of their brothers, especially if those brothers are much lower on the social totem poll than they are, which is probably the case if they are messing with someone still more or less in high school.

I have seen that happen where an otherwise pretty, intelligent girl will be skipped over by guys because of who she used to date or fool around with.

As far as how it will hurt your Rush . . . Come on. You are a girl. You know the deal. Girls are looking for reasons to love or hate you. Hanging out and partying with boys they know (and maybe sort of regard as theirs) seems to always get negative feedback.

I would add to your list: Silver Tonged Devils.

WarEagle07 · #11 09-13-2007, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Renee Smith

high school girl in college world
A lot of Freshmen girls that went to my High School last year are really mad and give me dirty looks. Will they be able to keep me out of a Sorority next year. It is very important to me to rush and get into a Sorority.

Thanks,

Renee

So is it possible that the OP is not the real Renee but one of those dastardly high school girls trying to ruin her chances at recruitment? This whole post smells fishy to me....

AOII Angel · #12 09-13-2007, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by WarEagle07

So is it possible that the OP is not the real Renee but one of those dastardly high school girls trying to ruin her chances at recruitment? This whole post smells fishy to me....

Sounds like a plan hatched by one of Batman's enemies! It's crazy....but it just might work!!!!

James · #13 09-13-2007, 09:04 PM

Diabolical!

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Sounds like a plan hatched by one of Batman's enemies! It's crazy....but it just might work!!!!

AOII Angel · #14 09-13-2007, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by James

Diabolical!

No...add a shark and some honey....THAT would be diabolical!

jon1856 · #15 09-13-2007, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

No...add a shark and some honey....THAT would be diabolical!

I would under stand shark and blood or bees and honey or even bears and honey.
But Shark and honey???

Lost or missing something there.

And I am not sure that this thread from the OP is a tall tail.
Could be wrong, hoping that I am not.