UIUC Rush Story

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by RollTide08

There are several alums to whom I am very much grateful for all they've done. But you'd be naive to believe that all alums are involved strictly because of the goodness of their hearts. I have friends in every sorority on my campus, and all of them have horror stories during Rush regarding alums trying to bully them into taking the girls they want/don't want. One of my roommates had an alum corner her and threaten to pull her pin if she didn't vote against an IN HOUSE LEGACY coming through. I have personally been told that I didn't deserve to be in my house because I vouched personally for a girl who an alum had written a negative rec for (because she beat said alum's daughter out for cheerleading) There are amazing alum who take to heart the sorority's creed and care for the good of the house. But there are just as many who are intent on living out their glory days by harrassing members during Rush. I have no doubt that some of this type exist on this message board. Please consider this before you make blanket statements.

Can we put this in the helimom thread?

hehehe j/k.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by RollTide08

There are several alums to whom I am very much grateful for all they've done. But you'd be naive to believe that all alums are involved strictly because of the goodness of their hearts. I have friends in every sorority on my campus, and all of them have horror stories during Rush regarding alums trying to bully them into taking the girls they want/don't want. One of my roommates had an alum corner her and threaten to pull her pin if she didn't vote against an IN HOUSE LEGACY coming through. I have personally been told that I didn't deserve to be in my house because I vouched personally for a girl who an alum had written a negative rec for (because she beat said alum's daughter out for cheerleading) There are amazing alum who take to heart the sorority's creed and care for the good of the house. But there are just as many who are intent on living out their glory days by harrassing members during Rush. I have no doubt that some of this type exist on this message board. Please consider this before you make blanket statements.

While unfortunately true at times, on this particular thread, I must say that an apology IS warranted. To indicate that someone has no life because she is interested in her chapter or sorority in general past her college years does not bode well for the investment a chapter would make in a person who feels this way.

I would like to think the percentage of times I've openly criticized someone speaks for itself. I do so when there's a slight chance of redemption.

ETA: Which does not mean I'm naive enough to expect one - this time.

[mystikchick]

Honeychile, you have so much graciousness even when pointing out the unfortunate attitude of the OP that it's truly wonderful. You are amazing.

[littlemissvixen]

um, yeah, no one's getting an apology. i don't really care how many t-shirts you have, if you spend your days as an adult criticizing people on GC, i think that's pretty sad. there's a difference in being interested in your chapter/sorority and being a lifetime member, and obsessing over random threads in GC. lots of you seem to be reading alot more into what i say than is actually there and then freaking out about it. also, why should i respect alumnae of various chapters not even my own?? um, ok, they joined a sorority and possibly finished 4 years of school and now spend time writing thousands of posts on GC. how does that equal respect? lol and as those of you complaining about my attitude... i try to post a recruitment story, admittedly a bit shallow but not mean-spirited in any way, and am immediately attacked and threatened, then expected to just take it as good advice? not happening.

[xoheatherxo]

i know im going against everyone on here and am going to get crap for it, but i honestly think we should leave her alone now and stop adding fuel to the fire. she made judgement mistakes and owned up to most of them.

littlemissvixen--i hope you are happy wherever you decided to pledge. i hope that you have the best experience possible!! feel free to pm me if you want to!

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

lol don't worry, i won't call you out on your attempts to not be nice. well, there's no way to really say how it all turned out and actually name a sorority without 1.) people knowing who i am (not too many junior transfers...) 2.) people attempting to get me in trouble with my sorority before i am even an active member. sooo you'll all just have to wonder.

I knew I shouldn't have gone to bed last night.
I have a correction in your statement on #2, you are a pledge, not an active member.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

I knew I shouldn't have gone to bed last night.
I have a correction in your statement on #2, you are a pledge, not an active member.

She said BEFORE she was an active member.

[PenguinTrax]

OK, I think things have gone on long enough. Refer to the forum TOS - if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it. That goes for everyone regardless of age.

The insults regarding age, interest in Greek life, etc. are stopping NOW. If LMV is not going to reveal what, if any, bid she received, the purpose of this thread has ended. Let's move on...

[xowest]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

um, yeah, no one's getting an apology. i don't really care how many t-shirts you have, if you spend your days as an adult criticizing people on GC, i think that's pretty sad.

I have to say that, initially, I agreed with the posters who felt littlemissvixen was being unfairly picked on. Although her original posts would have benefited by being toned down a bit, I appreciated her honesty. Unfortunately, it is true that, in the early rounds, a lot of judgments are made based upon appearances. It is not fair to think that people are going to get to know each other in any meaningful way during a fifteen minute (at best) conversation. Littlemissvixen's posts reflected this reality.

However, littlemissvixen's recent posts are truly mean spirited and immature. As indicated by the quote above, even littlemissvixen does not yet view herself as an adult. However, littlemissvixen, as a junior in college, you are an adult. Grow up and be a little more thoughtful with your comments. Even if someone posting on here has been out of school for a while, the fact that people remain interested in their sorority (which is a lifelong commitment) is a postive thing- not a negative.

Good luck to you with your new chapter. Maybe just think a little before you type?

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

also, why should i respect alumnae of various chapters not even my own??

I would have sent this in a PM except that you blocked PMs.

I'm surprised no one commented on this. Believe it or not, all 26 NPCs work together to make guidelines and rules that are fair.

If something happens to your house, be it a fire, the lost of a sister, or someting else, not only are your sisters there for you, but the Greek community as a whole.

Just because people where different letters, we all stand for the same thing.

"No matter the letter, we are all Greek together"

[33girl]

Wow, just wow.

Never thought I'd do a Balki Dance Of Joy that my sorority's chapter at UIUC is dormant.

[scbelle]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Wow, just wow.

Never thought I'd do a Balki Dance Of Joy that my sorority's chapter at UIUC is dormant.

LOL at the dance of joy!

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Wow, LMV, I was remaining pretty impartial all this time and really believed you were mainly a misguided PNM at first, a little too excited and missing your edit button, no big deal, college is the time to make mistakes. But I just checked back in here tonight to see if you did get your bid, and what happened? You are being unbelievably snippy and self-righteous. There is such a thing as respect, especially for alumnae, and if you are indeed an NM, now is the time to get that idea straight in your mind. You may not be on GC when you're an alumna but I can guarantee that no matter where you are, you will darn well feel you have earned the respect of anyone following in your panhellenic footsteps. We alumnae have all been there before, done that, have ALL the t-shirts and many are still serving their fraternities (sororities) with their free time just to make sure the newer generations enjoy the bonds they did and still do. So please don't think for one second that now that you have a pledge pin on, you get to speak to anyone any way you like and presume you "are" one now. The time between pledging and initiation is still a trial period and don't think your behavior doesn't reflect even more now on your character and, by default, the character of the sorority whose bid you accepted. You have an obligation to present yourself at the highest level at all times and represent your sisterhood to your best capacity at all times. The tone you've taken tonight is not flattering and if I were one of your new sisters (or an alumna of the chapter/sorority to which you are now pledged), I would be sure to flag this behavior and make sure this is an aberration and not how you will continue to represent my house. Your chickens are not fully hatched yet, so don't go countin' 'em. Your time would be better served learning your sorority's history, getting to know your sisters and earning your right to eventually initiate than trying to put the alumnae on this board you may not have hit it off with so well "in their place." They've already earned their place, now you go earn yours.

** off soapbox **

VERY nice.....

[Low C Sharp]

I have gained additional respect today for Honeychile's Kappa mama. You can always tell when someone was brought up right.
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Wong Amat Tower Condo

[hannahgirl]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

um, yeah, no one's getting an apology. i don't really care how many t-shirts you have, if you spend your days as an adult criticizing people on GC, i think that's pretty sad.

Either she is not an adult (because she has proven herself to act like a 5 year old) or she feels that being a college student keeps her from entering the adult world. Unfortunately for her, the minute you are 18 you're called an adult. Oh and wait....you've criticized enough people on GC and off throughout this whole thread.

Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.