UIUC Rush Story

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

by the way, deltabetababy, how old ARE you?? you joined GC in 2001 when i graduated 8th grade. seriously you're still at u of i participating in recruitment....? and if not, seriously you're still so concerned with recruitment?? lame.

First, congratulations on your bid. I hope you loved the parties, love the house, and love the sisters in it. You've worked hard for it.

Now, let's talk about the above post of yours. You do have a house, don't you? Do you honestly think that YOUR dues will cover all of its upkeep? Of course not - you're a junior, and more sensible than that. Beautiful is rarely inexpensive. Let me explain:

It's those lame, ancient alumnae who genuinely believe in the standards, creed, symphony, whatever behind your sorority who are donating money of their own free will to keep all of their sorority houses across the country (or two) looking fine and being insured, etc. It's those lame, ancient alumnae who have been working sight unseen in the kitchens, offices, and other rooms, making sure that the sisters have time to entertain the PNMs without too much worry. It's those lame, ancient alumnae who volunteer at each school, your GLO philanthropies, and write recs for the PNMs, so they can enjoy the benefits of being in a sorority.

It's those same lame, ancient alumnae who, after donating much of their time and money, care enough about that chapter (and others) to keep an eye on Recruitment and hope that the chapter did well.

Whether you decide to do so or not, you owe each of those lame, ancient alumnae a huge apology. Without them, there would be no fairly run greek system, there would be no gorgeous houses, there would be no lovely parties, and, for those who are currently New Members who do not fully appreciate the work of those alumnae, there may be no initiation.

You've gotten through life thus far expressing yourself as you'd like. It's time to understand that the feelings of others count, too. It's a sign of being a truly appreciated sorority woman.

Good luck in your New Member period.

[RollTide08]

Originally Posted by honeychile

First, congratulations on your bid. I hope you loved the parties, love the house, and love the sisters in it. You've worked hard for it.

It's those lame, ancient alumnae who genuinely believe in the standards, creed, symphony, whatever behind your sorority who are donating money of their own free will to keep all of their sorority houses across the country (or two) looking fine and being insured, etc. It's those lame, ancient alumnae who have been working sight unseen in the kitchens, offices, and other rooms, making sure that the sisters have time to entertain the PNMs without too much worry. It's those lame, ancient alumnae who volunteer at each school, your GLO philanthropies, and write recs for the PNMs, so they can enjoy the benefits of being in a sorority.

It's those same lame, ancient alumnae who, after donating much of their time and money, care enough about that chapter (and others) to keep an eye on Recruitment and hope that the chapter did well.

There are several alums to whom I am very much grateful for all they've done. But you'd be naive to believe that all alums are involved strictly because of the goodness of their hearts. I have friends in every sorority on my campus, and all of them have horror stories during Rush regarding alums trying to bully them into taking the girls they want/don't want. One of my roommates had an alum corner her and threaten to pull her pin if she didn't vote against an IN HOUSE LEGACY coming through. I have personally been told that I didn't deserve to be in my house because I vouched personally for a girl who an alum had written a negative rec for (because she beat said alum's daughter out for cheerleading) There are amazing alum who take to heart the sorority's creed and care for the good of the house. But there are just as many who are intent on living out their glory days by harrassing members during Rush. I have no doubt that some of this type exist on this message board. Please consider this before you make blanket statements.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by RollTide08

There are several alums to whom I am very much grateful for all they've done. But you'd be naive to believe that all alums are involved strictly because of the goodness of their hearts. I have friends in every sorority on my campus, and all of them have horror stories during Rush regarding alums trying to bully them into taking the girls they want/don't want. One of my roommates had an alum corner her and threaten to pull her pin if she didn't vote against an IN HOUSE LEGACY coming through. I have personally been told that I didn't deserve to be in my house because I vouched personally for a girl who an alum had written a negative rec for (because she beat said alum's daughter out for cheerleading) There are amazing alum who take to heart the sorority's creed and care for the good of the house. But there are just as many who are intent on living out their glory days by harrassing members during Rush. I have no doubt that some of this type exist on this message board. Please consider this before you make blanket statements.

Can we put this in the helimom thread?

hehehe j/k.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by RollTide08

There are several alums to whom I am very much grateful for all they've done. But you'd be naive to believe that all alums are involved strictly because of the goodness of their hearts. I have friends in every sorority on my campus, and all of them have horror stories during Rush regarding alums trying to bully them into taking the girls they want/don't want. One of my roommates had an alum corner her and threaten to pull her pin if she didn't vote against an IN HOUSE LEGACY coming through. I have personally been told that I didn't deserve to be in my house because I vouched personally for a girl who an alum had written a negative rec for (because she beat said alum's daughter out for cheerleading) There are amazing alum who take to heart the sorority's creed and care for the good of the house. But there are just as many who are intent on living out their glory days by harrassing members during Rush. I have no doubt that some of this type exist on this message board. Please consider this before you make blanket statements.

While unfortunately true at times, on this particular thread, I must say that an apology IS warranted. To indicate that someone has no life because she is interested in her chapter or sorority in general past her college years does not bode well for the investment a chapter would make in a person who feels this way.

I would like to think the percentage of times I've openly criticized someone speaks for itself. I do so when there's a slight chance of redemption.

ETA: Which does not mean I'm naive enough to expect one - this time.