You have to be pretty bad to come up on j-board charges in a fraternity chapter . . . you also have had to make yourself unpopular. You can get away with a lot if everyone likes you or you consistantly hang out with everyone.
Better overall behavior in a group will be more a recruitment question that can be refined during a new member program. For example, if you don't want people to drink in your chapter . . . don't recruit drinkers.
For people with bad attitudes . . . be wary of the person who has a legitimate bad attitude. Meaning there is stuff wrong with your chapter, they know it, they don't see changes happening, and they have become disslusioned or frustrated.
This is more common than you may believe. There is also a lot of pressure in groups settings to "hide" bad things. Don't rock the boat is a watchword . . . real boats rock.
IF everything in someone's chapter seems awesome from the outside, someone is hiding something.
Anyway, don't always victimize the poor chap that sees things wrong and is surly about it, listen to them and try and fix things . . . preferably before they lose all respect for you and the organization.
Note: "you" is meant generically.
[This message has been edited by James (edited May 15, 2001).]
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