Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by OTW

No shit.

But I was hoping she'd be dumb enough to at least answer.

Thanks a lot.

You're welcome. Thanks for being such an upstanding citizen. You hurt my feel bads. <<< me

[SWTXBelle]

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

True.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

I love you for this.

[adpiucf]

Oh come on, you guys. Play nice. I know we like to snark, criticize spelling, etc., with the newbies, but I can appreciate that the OP is stressed out, confused and dealing with a lot of adjustments. I don't think we need to go "outing" her by looking at what campuses have X NPCs with or without sorority XYZ and QRS.

It takes some cajones to transfer to a new school where you don't know anyone, and especially to a school a lot further away from home. Added to the fact that her home chapter didn't submit paperwork that she didn't even know about (and did any of you have any clue as to the paperwork involved with initiation or communication between the chapter and HQ when you were a new initiate?), I'd be anxious and looking online to see if there were any resources to give me more info or advice about the process.

PLUS there's the very long and twisted process involved in trying to transfer into another chapter, which is something the vast majority of members will never even contemplate b/c most people don't even contemplate transferring. Think of all of the adjustments and risks involved-- losing credits, getting used to a new school, the uncertainty of fitting in with the transfer chapter, liking your old school and old chapter enough to outweigh the potential benefit of transferring for a specialized major, etc. I'd be stressed out, too.

So what if her mom is trying to help her by making phone calls on her behalf? This kid is probably all of 18-19 years old, and from the looks of it, she was going to college close to her family before she moved farther away to attend the other school. I'd be overwhelmed trying to settle in and grateful for mom's help in trying to get things squared away for me-- if it met helping me find a local doctor in the area or figuring out how to get my sorority transfer request moving along.

Whatever. I guess I just don't "get it." Her posts maybe were a little confusing to read, but I just read that as her inexperience and anxiety. Comments about the chapter not being up to what she thought it would be based on her experience at recruitment, reputations of the new chapter-- give her a break. She's been fairly discreet about not naming names or locations, and she's just being honest.

[AnchorAlumna]

Bless you for some rational thought!

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Oh come on, you guys. Play nice. I know we like to snark, criticize spelling, etc., with the newbies, but I can appreciate that the OP is stressed out, confused and dealing with a lot of adjustments. I don't think we need to go "outing" her by looking at what campuses have X NPCs with or without sorority XYZ and QRS.

It takes some cajones to transfer to a new school where you don't know anyone, and especially to a school a lot further away from home. Added to the fact that her home chapter didn't submit paperwork that she didn't even know about (and did any of you have any clue as to the paperwork involved with initiation or communication between the chapter and HQ when you were a new initiate?), I'd be anxious and looking online to see if there were any resources to give me more info or advice about the process.

PLUS there's the very long and twisted process involved in trying to transfer into another chapter, which is something the vast majority of members will never even contemplate b/c most people don't even contemplate transferring. Think of all of the adjustments and risks involved-- losing credits, getting used to a new school, the uncertainty of fitting in with the transfer chapter, liking your old school and old chapter enough to outweigh the potential benefit of transferring for a specialized major, etc. I'd be stressed out, too.

So what if her mom is trying to help her by making phone calls on her behalf? This kid is probably all of 18-19 years old, and from the looks of it, she was going to college close to her family before she moved farther away to attend the other school. I'd be overwhelmed trying to settle in and grateful for mom's help in trying to get things squared away for me-- if it met helping me find a local doctor in the area or figuring out how to get my sorority transfer request moving along.

Whatever. I guess I just don't "get it." Her posts maybe were a little confusing to read, but I just read that as her inexperience and anxiety. Comments about the chapter not being up to what she thought it would be based on her experience at recruitment, reputations of the new chapter-- give her a break. She's been fairly discreet about not naming names or locations, and she's just being honest.

I don't want to see flames, attacks, and outings. I agree about that, and you are probably right about confusion and anxiety rather than maliciousness being behind it. But ouchie, it ended up being a bad thread in general, IMO.

She managed to make one chapter of her, (yes, unnamed, thank goodness for that) GLO look terrible, her HQ look like they promoted re-rushing to her, and the new chapter look indifferent to a sister.

All because she wasn't getting what she wanted from the group fast enough, apparently.

She might not have realized where it was going when she started, but I think she should have caught on a little bit.

[jon1856]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Oh come on, you guys. Play nice. I know we like to snark, criticize spelling, etc., with the newbies, but I can appreciate that the OP is stressed out, confused and dealing with a lot of adjustments. I don't think we need to go "outing" her by looking at what campuses have X NPCs with or without sorority XYZ and QRS.

It takes some cajones to transfer to a new school where you don't know anyone, and especially to a school a lot further away from home. Added to the fact that her home chapter didn't submit paperwork that she didn't even know about (and did any of you have any clue as to the paperwork involved with initiation or communication between the chapter and HQ when you were a new initiate?), I'd be anxious and looking online to see if there were any resources to give me more info or advice about the process.

PLUS there's the very long and twisted process involved in trying to transfer into another chapter, which is something the vast majority of members will never even contemplate b/c most people don't even contemplate transferring. Think of all of the adjustments and risks involved-- losing credits, getting used to a new school, the uncertainty of fitting in with the transfer chapter, liking your old school and old chapter enough to outweigh the potential benefit of transferring for a specialized major, etc. I'd be stressed out, too.

So what if her mom is trying to help her by making phone calls on her behalf? This kid is probably all of 18-19 years old, and from the looks of it, she was going to college close to her family before she moved farther away to attend the other school. I'd be overwhelmed trying to settle in and grateful for mom's help in trying to get things squared away for me-- if it met helping me find a local doctor in the area or figuring out how to get my sorority transfer request moving along.

Whatever. I guess I just don't "get it." Her posts maybe were a little confusing to read, but I just read that as her inexperience and anxiety. Comments about the chapter not being up to what she thought it would be based on her experience at recruitment, reputations of the new chapter-- give her a break. She's been fairly discreet about not naming names or locations, and she's just being honest.

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I don't want to see flames, attacks, and outings. I agree about that, and you are probably right about confusion and anxiety rather than maliciousness being behind it. But ouchie, it ended up being a bad thread in general, IMO.

She managed to make one chapter of her, (yes, unnamed, thank goodness for that) GLO look terrible, her HQ look like they promoted re-rushing to her, and the new chapter look indifferent to a sister.

All because she wasn't getting what she wanted from the group fast enough, apparently.

She might not have realized where it was going when she started, but I think she should have caught on a little bit.

BON, after reading all of this, I agree with you both.
And IMVHO this thread should be locked down right about now..