Re-Rushing

[prospective88]

hi ladies! i have a question. okay... next week both alpha and beta are having events on the same day. beta's event starts and 5 and alpha's event starts at 6. so i was thinking of going to beta's and then to alphas. i just found out that both events will be happening at the our Campus Student Union Center, beta on the 4th floor and alpha in the basement, but in a very open space where all the food/restaurants are.

I just thought... what if one of the beta girls comes down and sees me at the alpha event and realized that i left their event to go to another one... how will that look? by the time these events take place i will have attended an equal amount of events for both sororities so i don't really want to have to choose one over the other... not so soon anyway...

if any could give me a lesson on rushing etiquette for this type of situation, i would greatly appreciate it!

thank you!!!

[REE1993]

I think that people will handle things based on your cues. Chances are, you wouldn't necessarily stay the two or three hours for the entire event, so leaving after an hour wouldn't raise a flag.

When it is time for you to leave the first event, thank everyone for their hospitality. If they ask for a reason, say that you have plans for 6pm. That's all you need to say.

I don't see it as a big deal if a Beta sees you downstairs with the Alphas. You said yourself it is a public place.

I would suggest trying to relax a little. You seem really worked up. Be yourself. Really. Moms say this and it's so true. And don't stress so much about designer clothing. Be comfortable and just have fun. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by prospective88

I just thought... what if one of the beta girls comes down and sees me at the alpha event and realized that i left their event to go to another one... how will that look? by the time these events take place i will have attended an equal amount of events for both sororities so i don't really want to have to choose one over the other... not so soon anyway...

if any could give me a lesson on rushing etiquette for this type of situation, i would greatly appreciate it!

thank you!!!

Go to both.

It's unlikely anyone from Beta will come to Alpha's event b/c recruitment events are usually mandatory for sorority women -- e.g., they really can't leave and cruise around. Even if someone did happen to pass by, it's unlikely they'd stop and scope out the situation long enough to realize you were there -- loitering too long at another sorority's recruitment event would make her look like she was either really awkward or trying to "spy" for some reason.

Going to multiple COB events was always encouraged at my school. If anything, I think it would make a sorority "compete" harder for a PNM if we knew she were carefully weighing all her options. Go to both, have fun, and don't worry -- you're doing the right thing.

[AlwaysSAI]

Now, I'm not in an NPC--but this advise was given to me while I was pursuing NPC membership by an NPC woman.

If you go to only the events for one sorority they will think they have you in the bag and may not think twice, but if they hear that you are going to events for other sororities they may think harder about wether or not to pick you up. Does that make sense??

Also, I think it's perfectly fine to go from one event to another. This is about you finding a sisterhood and both groups deserve an equal chance. I don't think either sorority would find it disrespectful and if they do, you probably wouldn't want those women for sisters.

You'll find you place!

[AlphaXi1997]

I just wanted to point out that if you sign a bid card during Formal Recruitment and don't maximize your opportunities (meaning that you only put down one sorority), you are not allowed to join another NPC sorority on that campus for a full calendar year. So, if you "suicide" Alpha in Fall 2007, you can't join Alpha, Beta, or any other NPC in Spring 2008. You have to wait until Fall 2008 and either go through Formal Recruitment again or hope that your preferred sorority has spots available during COB. There are definite downfalls to suiciding and that's why Recruitment Counselors are supposed to steer pnm's away from it.

[fantASTic]

I think this is a campus rule..I've never heard that.

[AnatraAmore]

Originally Posted by AlphaXi1997

I just wanted to point out that if you sign a bid card during Formal Recruitment and don't maximize your opportunities (meaning that you only put down one sorority), you are not allowed to join another NPC sorority on that campus for a full calendar year. So, if you "suicide" Alpha in Fall 2007, you can't join Alpha, Beta, or any other NPC in Spring 2008. You have to wait until Fall 2008 and either go through Formal Recruitment again or hope that your preferred sorority has spots available during COB. There are definite downfalls to suiciding and that's why Recruitment Counselors are supposed to steer pnm's away from it.

Wait... I know that's not what happens on my campus. Typically, we have several girls who decide to suicide and are not matched. They are usually picked up during COB - normally by the chapter they suicided if they're not at total. Are you sure that's a universal Panhellenic rule? Perhaps that's just at your campus?

[AlwaysSAI]

I'm pretty sure that's a panhellenic rule.

[Drolefille]

If you sign a bid card and receive a bid and decline the bid... then you can't join for a year. That's the rule I know about.