UIUC Rush Story

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by blondebutsmart

Yes, this really turns me off. I would love to find a group of sisters to bond with and to find a philanthropy to contribute to, but this other stuff drives me crazy. It sounds like a lot of high school drama. (I want to leave that behind!)

I'm trying to remember, like someone else said, that not all the girls are like this. I wish the best for littlemissvixen and I hope that means she ends up in a place where other girls might be a good influence on her. Truly, I'm not trying to sound like some goody two shoes, I'm trying to convince myself that I should still give recruitment a try.

It all depends on the school's greek system. In really competitive systems, all of this really matters. You have to get past the popularity component before you can find out if you can have a connection with the groups. In smaller systems like at my alma mater, it's no problem. Sorority life is much more than pretty girls and pretty dresses (though there is nothing wrong with wanting to look your best!) I've become more of a feminist through the years. I truly believe that EVERY woman would benefit from and enrich the greek system. We can't change the ugly parts of recruitment until someone is brave enough to make the change. If you do decide to rush (and there are GREAT reasons to do so!) just be prepared to look past the superficial, ignore the gossip and decide for yourself what is right for you!
P.S. I'm blonde but smart, too!

[AnatraAmore]

Side Note: Large numbers of girls + little to no sleep = drama and/or brutal honesty.

[srmom]

You can probably learn more about the vibe of a group from the looks of the girls than you can from their skill at pinning Christmas lights to the ceiling.

Loved this quote! It made me laugh out loud because it is so true!

Pinning lights to the ceiling - Hee hee

[AnonAlumna]

Thanks for the 'balls' JwSteele and LowC. I think we are quick to forget that we (as the rushers) were probably pretty shallow too. We've all flipped through the picture books and paid more attention to the more attractive PNM's. I don't consider myself shallow, but I was guilty of it too.

I do agree with anyone who was more concerned about her anonymity being compromised. But, please, let's not sugarcoat this process anymore than it is. We all had some shallow biz-natches as our sisters...hopefully, vixen will fit in where she's meant to be.

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by AnonAlumna

Thanks for the 'balls' JwSteele and LowC. I think we are quick to forget that we (as the rushers) were probably pretty shallow too. We've all flipped through the picture books and paid more attention to the more attractive PNM's. I don't consider myself shallow, but I was guilty of it too.

Thank you! I've just had to catch up on this thread and was hoping somebody would say this before I reached the end. It's easy to see things clearly with a little more life experience under our belts, so don't be too quick to judge a college-aged girl for being shallow. I don't think most of us were having SUPER deep conversations at rush. We all know it's a superficial process on both sides....don't act like littlemissvixen is the only PNM in history to judge people based on first appearances.

[MVisKD]

Originally Posted by OtterXO

Thank you! I've just had to catch up on this thread and was hoping somebody would say this before I reached the end. It's easy to see things clearly with a little more life experience under our belts, so don't be too quick to judge a college-aged girl for being shallow. I don't think most of us were having SUPER deep conversations at rush. We all know it's a superficial process on both sides....don't act like littlemissvixen is the only PNM in history to judge people based on first appearances.

I am with you!!!!!!!! Poor LMV came here for support and she is practically being hazed by all the gc'ers! I have already said this to her in a PM, but I know that I definitely was looking at the appearances of each chapter. It's just what we (as humans) do. That is not to say that my chapter was all of the best looking girls or that I cut other houses because of physical attributes/looks, but I remember walking into a house and looking around and thinking, "They are so cute!!!!!" And it is the same on the other side....It never failed that comments on score cards were "pretty" "cute" "adorable," not "smart," "witty," or "involved." (ok, sometimes they said that ) I think that especially at this point in her rush, looks and shallow convo's are all LMV has to go by. Let's cut her some slack!!!!!

[AlphaFrog]

MVisKD...your last post is venturing precariously close to membership selection details, and I refrained from quoting you, in case you would like to go back and edit.