Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[giggle528]

well i mean like..yeah i know things take time. but just like i dont even talk to half the people at my old school. i was only there for a year. only in it for 2 months and i dont talk to half the girls because they never talk to me. my prez has never even heard of the school i am right now let alone know that the even had my sorority. I called them first to ask what to do, b/c i mean i had no other choice, my president wasnting calling me back, nor was the prez here, i didnt know what to do..so i called them to ask them what to do. i then heard nothing back, so i had my mother do it, because classes had started. I mean i really dont have to justify myself. yeah, its life....things happen, but i didnt just spend 300$ on something that I cant continue...i've witnessed ritual, but i have no business telling others, nor do i care for it. finally when i did get in contact with my prez, i told her that this was unfair and i was going to join another one, because she was being so irresponsible, that she wasnt doing her job(didnt really say that, just thought it). because seriously she wasn't.i basically knew i gave her a month do it..i filled out the form myself..sent it to her through e-mail...it takes 2 seconds to re-send it to my new school.

i mean i dont really wanna leave this sorority...its exciting being part of something, but if nothing is happening, i have to do whats best for me..ya know?
i just dont know what to do...

[cuteASAbug]

Is your chapter advisor aware of this? Also does your sorority have a district/provice/leader director? Email the whole story to them (omitting the part about wanting to rush again) and let them know that you want to know where you stand and if you can transfer in. They will follow up with the chapter president who will then have no choice but to get your paperwork submitted pronto.

[giggle528]

its supposed to be here already, because the lady at HQ did it for me, because obviously my prez wasnt getting back to me. so i e-mailed the greek life people here(im pretty sure those are the advisors right?) and she said she would get back to me, havent heard anything. rush starts fri. and the interest meetins are tomorrow.

Who looks at all the sorority recuirtment sign ups? just the exec board?

[cuteASAbug]

I would contact the chapter advisor of the ABC chapter, not the greek advisor at your school. If you decide to go through recruitment and have to fill out a recruitment application, you may be asked to sign a waiver stating that you have not been initiated into an NPC sorority. If any of the ABC girls remember you, then it will surface that you are member of a sorority, which will disqualify you from recruitment and will ruin your chances of ever affiliating with the chapter at your new school. Just something for you to think about so you can weigh the consequences.

[giggle528]

yeah..ive thought about that..trust me..haha! but tahnks for helpin out.
just wish that you are never in this position!

[jon1856]

Originally Posted by giggle528

its supposed to be here already, because the lady at HQ did it for me, because obviously my prez wasnt getting back to me. so i e-mailed the Greek life people here(im pretty sure those are the advisors right?) and she said she would get back to me, havent heard anything. rush starts fri. and the interest meetins are tomorrow.

Who looks at all the sorority recuirtment sign ups? just the exec board?

You seem to be a "ghost" member. Which is very unfair to you.
If the President of your former chapter is/was late in getting paperwork and monies sent to National-shame on her, her regional rep and your National.

While Greek Life may have some idea or clue; it would be better to work within your group. Yes, there are chapter advisers but I think you need to work within your National ladder. There must be area or regional reps for your group. They would be the ones to get both houses to get their acts in gear. IMHO

[UGAalum94]

Giggles, exactly when did you get initiated?

ETA: I can see it in the first post. Sorry.

It was in April. School probably got out in May or June and started again in August. While I'm pretty sure that the local chapter president should have taken care of the paperwork immediately after the ceremony, I think we're still within a reasonable about of time for the GLO to be processing stuff. It's baffling that they'd have no records, as I think DBB noted, at HQ, but this attitude that the organization is grievously remiss might not be quite as apt as some of you think.

It might be interesting to know what the typical turn around for this kind of paperwork is.

[bluefish81]

All right, well now that the chapter on your campus has your paperwork, like others have said - be patient - they will contact you. And after that happens you're going to have to be patient some more.
When I was an undergrad we had two members transfer into the chapter and one of them took a few months from the time that she first contacted us, through chapter approval and affiliation the other one took almost a semester and a half.
Depending on the chapter approval process you might basically feel like you're going through recruitment all over again, as the members will want to have the opportunity to get to know you. Affiliation is not a 100% process. You could decide after you meet the women of your new chapter that they aren't what you'd hope for and decide to explore other options (not NPC chapters) just like they could choose not to affiliate you - but you'll always be a member.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by jon1856

You seem to be a "ghost" member. Which is very unfair to you.
If the President of your former chapter is/was late in getting paperwork and monies sent to National-shame on her, her regional rep and your National.

While Greek Life may have some idea or clue; it would be better to work within your group. Yes, there are chapter advisers but I think you need to work within your National ladder. There must be area or regional reps for your group. They would be the ones to get both houses to get their acts in gear. IMHO

Jon, you should be careful about using the term "ghost" member as it has an altogether different connotation than what's going on here - a group or member that isn't a real national member because the chapter no longer exists or because they couldn't be legally pledged for this reason or another (i.e. grades or class status). I don't think there's anything shady going on here, I just think the national HQ is hella slow in getting stuff out to the newly initiated girls.

[jon1856]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Jon, you should be careful about using the term "ghost" member as it has an altogether different connotation than what's going on here - a group or member that isn't a real national member because the chapter no longer exists or because they couldn't be legally pledged for this reason or another (i.e. grades or class status). I don't think there's anything shady going on here, I just think the national HQ is hella slow in getting stuff out to the newly initiated girls.

Thank you 33girl.
Perhaps I am wrong but I believed that it also included those that by no true fault of their own were not registered/recorded by National.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by giggle528

well i mean like..yeah i know things take time. but just like i dont even talk to half the people at my old school. i was only there for a year. only in it for 2 months and i dont talk to half the girls because they never talk to me. my prez has never even heard of the school i am right now let alone know that the even had my sorority. I called them first to ask what to do, b/c i mean i had no other choice, my president wasnting calling me back, nor was the prez here, i didnt know what to do..so i called them to ask them what to do. i then heard nothing back, so i had my mother do it, because classes had started. I mean i really dont have to justify myself. yeah, its life....things happen, but i didnt just spend 300$ on something that I cant continue...i've witnessed ritual, but i have no business telling others, nor do i care for it. finally when i did get in contact with my prez, i told her that this was unfair and i was going to join another one, because she was being so irresponsible, that she wasnt doing her job(didnt really say that, just thought it). because seriously she wasn't.i basically knew i gave her a month do it..i filled out the form myself..sent it to her through e-mail...it takes 2 seconds to re-send it to my new school.

i mean i dont really wanna leave this sorority...its exciting being part of something, but if nothing is happening, i have to do whats best for me..ya know?
i just dont know what to do...

1. You cannot join another sorority.
2. Is there really a reason your mom is involved? You're a big girl.
3. Paperwork takes a long time to get processed. Your HQ has to process the initiation paperwork on every single girl that went through the new member process last year. Be patient. Technically you are a member of this sorority whether they have gotten around to sending you your pin or not.
4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

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4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

Ohhhh gotcha..how do you figure out which one ur advisor is tho? because i talked to the transfer lady at my HQ.

i mean like should i introduce myself tomorrow to the girls? or just wait it out? because if HQ is giving me the option to re-rush..then im going to.

[cuteASAbug]

HQ will not give you the option to rerush.

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

HQ will not give you the option to rerush.

...they told me that on the phone...there are exceptions to everything..

[cuteASAbug]

They told you that you can't rerush or that you're the exception and can?