Possible Thread: What to Do if You're Released from Recruitment

[Army Wife'79]

How about:
Dear Mom and/or Dad: We're so sorry you and your D are hurting now from an unsuccessful recruitment. Unfortunately, there is nothing we can say or do that will help ease this pain. Membership Selection is secret and so nobody on this forum would know why it happened the way it did. Beautiful, brilliant, talented young women go bidless every year and it's difficult to comprehend as a parent. Be there emotionally for your D, tell her to sign up for COB and join lots of other extracurricular activities and keep her grades up. As she progresses with her classes she will meet girls in Greek groups and maybe down the road her science lab partner, dorm neighbor, club member etc. will ask her if she'd like to attend a COB event. We will all be wishing her good thoughts and the best of luck in her college career.
Sincerely,
The Greek Chat Gals

[AlexMack]

It bears a lot of repeating, bolding and underlining that we here at Greekchat cannot tell you why anyone gets cut during recruitment. We are not in the room when they do cuts. We are not there during rounds listening into your conversations. We cannot tell you, we have no way of knowing, and we won't speculate because there's just no way to know.

I also think there should be something about parents backing off. That might border near parenting styles, but no child wants their parent to be hysterical over something they themselves have already started to move on from. Coming to GC and making 10 hysterical threads about how unfair recruitment is is just dumb. We've all known disappointment and we've all sucked it up. A mother weeping because her daughter got cut hard is just an embarrassment. Yes it hurts but you need to be the pillar of support, not a crumbling ruin. GC is not a glass cage of emotion.

Originally Posted by epchick

If carnation and PenguinTrax haven't opened it again, it might not be opened again. Sorry, but deal with it. People have had threads that they thought were good and they've been closed.

Epchick, are you PMSing? Seriously, did you have to be that bitchy?

[texas*princess]

Isn't all that info already posted in adpiucf's thread: http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=54403

Is it really neccessary to have a duplicate?

There's even a section about being the mom of a pnm.

All these cases are the same.

"My classic beauty of a daughter who was homecoming queen and a cheerleader rushed at <super competitive school here> and she didn't get one of the top three out of 15 sororities on the campus and I don't know what to do for her"

Someone already posted something to the effect of everyone wants to think their case is exceptionally different than the norm which is why they post 128379243 threads about essentially the same thing.

having read most all of these, I feel like the mom's who are in this position only come here to hear the good news ("that's EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR!") whether it will apply to them or not. There was talk on these boards a year or two ago about not blowing sunshine where it probably didn't need to be for the pnms.... why doesn't that apply to the parents too?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by epchick

I'm sorry if you thought it was too bitchy, maybe I could have worded it differently.

The original post was great, but it seems like there was good reason for locking the thread, and I too was a little perplexed about why people seemed to attach such an importance to it being unlocked. I mean, we're discussing the issue right now. The original comment can be read in that locked thread. There was a freaking petition. What exactly would be different if the thread were opened?

I guess it's weird that I'm quoting you. I'm just saying that although the tone was excessive, I agreed with the sentiment although the original post was a good one.