HELP! Auburn PNM question!

[augreekmom]

AuburnPNMom, I was on this board seeking advice for a similar problem after formal recruitment. My daughter was incredibly disappointed when she received her bid to a sorority she liked, but at the time didn't see herself fitting in with. She was cut by 2 but was feeling devastated because her 1st choice had gone on and on about how much they loved her each time she visited. Looking for information, I too stumbled onto this board, sorry I didn't mean to impose all, but I also had no clue or experience with sorority recruitment, especially at a big, SEC school. I explained my daughter's situation and received excellent, thoughtful advice which I shared with her because her first reaction was to quit. She, like most girls, only focused on the groups that cut her, not the one that seemed to love her. I know we "helicopter" Moms are a pain, but I truly appreciate what I learned and what I shared with my daughter. It really helped her to see how fortunate she was despite her disappointment, and focus on the positive things about her new sisters.

My daughter decided to remain with the sorority that offered a bid. She initially didn't think ANYONE in that LARGE sorority would be someone she could relate to. Funny you mentioned the blonde thing, when my daughter walked up to the house, there to greet her was a sea of tall blondes! My daughter is very brown eyed and brunette and not the tallest. I thought, wow, she doesn't look like these girls. But guess what, there were great girls there. and a LOT of brunettes inside the house, and she is making many friends and having a blast. It turned out to be a wonderful decision to give this sorority a chance. Auburn has great sororities and while there may be a few small differences, my daughter tells me they are all really good. She didn't get a top tier, or even her 1st. choice, but she did get a great group of wonderful new sisters. She now is very happy where she is and wouldn't change a thing. I hope your daughter will really consider the sorority looking at her, I'm sure it is full of wonderful young ladies, some who will probably become some of your daughter's best friends.

NOTE TO GREEKCHAT MEMBERS...I know we Moms are a pain but I really appreciate the help and advice I and my daughter received from all! Thanks!

[xoheatherxo]

just a quick question. did your daughter go into rush with an idea of which chapters she wanted to be in before she started? is it possible that these groups are in your home state schools and shes heard of them there and heard good things about them so decided that she wanted them at auburn? or maybe the ones that she got cob's for arent as popular in her home state and thats why she has second thoughts?? this could totally happen if she has friends in universities that have already rushed. i could be totally off here, but if thats at all the case then try to explain to her that all chapters are different at different schools. sorry if this is not the case but thats the first thing that came to my mind. i went to school out of state and heard lots of different things about different greek orgs that im very glad i didnt listen to--but its very hard not to!! good luck to your daughter!!