HELP! Auburn PNM question!

[AuburnPNMmom]

Thank you EPChick. I feel so much better reading your message. That is how I left it with my daughter. I hope that she will be able to see that herself. It has been so hard listening to her cry and not be able to do anything. Everywhere I have tried to steer her she feels surrounded by girls in a sorority. She also lives on the hill and sees it everyday. I, too, feel that she sould take the opportunity. If this were our state, she would not have had this issue as she and us are well known here. She, however, chose Auburn because of all the schools we visited, she loved it the best. She also wanted to go where she could be known as herself and not by our family name. We never even looked into how hard rush would be. We thought we did all the right things. I say we, because I tried to help us get her recs, clothes,etc for rush. I don't know what a helicopter mom is, I found this forum by doing an internet search for Auburn Sorority Rush Experiences and this forum came up.

[UGAalum94]

Did you wear pink sequined pantyhose to first round, by any chance?

[texas*princess]

Somehow, I can't help but think of the Sweet Valley High twins recruitment thread.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by AuburnPNMmom

I hope that she will be able to see that herself. It has been so hard listening to her cry and not be able to do anything. Everywhere I have tried to steer her she feels surrounded by girls in a sorority.

And hopefully she will see that, but also realize she might not.

I've been there, when i was a senior in HS i desperately wanted to be a cheerleader. But I didn't make it, and I couldn't realize why--i mean i had better jumps than some that made it, and i was friends with a lot of the girls etc. My mom had to stop me and realize "why," why did i want to be a cheerleader? For the status, because i love cheerleading?

I dont know if you have, but try and "sit her down" and ask her "why."

-Why does she want to be in a sorority?
-Does she want her Top 4, just for status?

Maybe after actually having that chat with her, will she might realize that she's not giving all the sororities a fair chance.

Rush is artificial. It seems like we might fit in with ABC sorority perfectly and not in XYZ, but after rush we see that ABC really aren't what they appeared and XYZ has a great sisterhood.

I hope everything works out well for both you and your daughter.