HELP! Auburn PNM question!

[AuburnPNMmom]

I agree - If my daughter only could have the wisdom that age brings......Like I said, she really likes the girls in the one she is considering....I think it is just the uncertainty that has her wondering. I think she will do the right thing for her.

[UGAalum94]

This may sound bad to remind you of this, but she can drop out of the group before initiation if she accepts her bid and still continues to want to re-rush.

[AuburnPNMmom]

Yes, I have thought of that - but that can't be a good thing when rerushing

[Katmandu]

While I agree that people may not know the right "lingo", to say that "this" (meaning being COB'd by "lesser" sororities) would never have happened on the home turf because the family is so public and famous, that her daughter is worried that she is "blonder" (more attractive? more bleached?) than the sisters in the lesser sorority, really depicts her daughter in a very shallow, superficial and immature light. However, she knows her daughter best.

If she is truly interested in sororities for philanthropic work then any sorority she joins will have sterling philanthropy opportunities.

OTW has a cool signature.

[AuburnPNMmom]

I should add that my daughter really likes the girls in this sorority. I think the fear of the unknown and what if is what is making her hesitate. I am just going to tell her to do what feels best. Since she does like them, I think it will be a good fit for her.....

[AuburnPNMmom]

I don't think I need to respond to the insinuation regarding my daughter's character. She did have in mind what she liked before she started but it was formed during her visits to campus - The sorority system is completely different there than what we are familiar with....and the sororities are, too....so any knowledge of schools we knew did not help nor deter her in any way. She was more shocked by the fact that you needed to be from Alabama to get into a sorority. Needless to say, that is far more shallow than forming an opinion about whether or not you would fit into a sorority based on looks or not. and her blonde hair is what she was born with. Often envied by her friends that color is not required.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by AuburnPNMmom

I don't think I need to respond to the insinuation regarding my daughter's character. She did have in mind what she liked before she started but it was formed during her visits to campus - The sorority system is completely different there than what we are familiar with....and the sororities are, too....so any knowledge of schools we knew did not help nor deter her in any way. She was more shocked by the fact that you needed to be from Alabama to get into a sorority. Needless to say, that is far more shallow than forming an opinion about whether or not you would fit into a sorority based on looks or not. and her blonde hair is what she was born with. Often envied by her friends that color is not required.

Many girls who weren't from Alabama got bids at Auburn this year. Check the lists of new members on their website and their hometowns.

Sure, they may not have the inside track that girls who are from the same hometowns as present members have, but her home state would not likely have been held against her in and of itself. (again, I can't know this for sure, but if you look at the list, you'd suspect it to be true.)

And if you re-read the thread you'll see you're the one who made the hair color comment, not us, so it doesn't make sense to get huffy about it now.

[AuburnPNMmom]

augreekmom! That is just what I needed to hear!

[augreekmom]

Originally Posted by AuburnPNMmom

augreekmom! That is just what I needed to hear!

Glad to have helped!

[AuburnPNMmom]

Oh, I am soo sorry - I didn't mean to get huffy - I just took offense at the insinuation that my daughter was shallow and immature. I haven't slept much and am tired - I am grateful for the support I have given here. I had noone else to talk to about it and don't want to hound my daughter so that she can make up her mind. Yes, I do know that about the other states, I was responding to the poster who said that it made a difference where she was from. I didn't mean to combine the 2 - Please forgive me

[UGAalum94]

I hope that you can get some rest and feel better. Your daughter had the benefit of your council for 18 years; surely, she's going to make a good decision tomorrow.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by AuburnPNMmom

Oh, I am soo sorry - I didn't mean to get huffy - I just took offense at the insinuation that my daughter was shallow and immature.

It's OKAY if your daughter is shallow and immature. We all were at the age of 17 or 18. I think that you are doing a good job of trying to guide her past that.

It sounds like she took the bid, but a few things that may help her stick with it:

1. Make sure the roomie is not promising her anything. I know of women who depledged a chapter because their roomie promised they would get her in next semester or next year or something. This NEVER works out.

2. You will find countless recruitment threads on here where a woman ended up very very happy in a chapter that was not initially a top choice. My own retro thread is a story like that. Yes, there were times in college, even as a sophomore or junior, when it sucked to not get exchanges with the top fraternities or to have to work twice as hard during rush. But you know what? Every chapter has drama. EVERY CHAPTER. To this day, some of my best friends are women from my chapter. If it helps her to read something like that, point her to GC.

[SWTXBelle]

PLEASE let us know ASAP if she takes the bid (fingers crossed!)

[AuburnPNMmom]

[AuburnPNMmom]

skylark - You missed the point. she is not seeking to be the blonde star. she is worried that her new sisters won't like her because she IS blonde.