Baby Daddy/New Girlfriend

[Little32]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

I can see if the man was married and had a child then got divorced.

This was the situation with the guy I dated. He was a few years older than me.

@ Incontrollable, I think the circumstances surrounding the birth of the child would determine how I felt about my sister dating a man with children. If he were around her age and had children, I would wonder about him. If, however, he were older and perhaps had been married, that would change my perception of the situation. Bottom line, I think his behavior towards his children would ultimately determine how I felt about the relationship; and, of course, my sister is grown, so I can't tell her anything.

[IncontRHOllable]

I know for sure if my sister was 18 -23, I would be upset if she brought a man home who has kids. I wouldn't care if he acquired the kids from being married or not. I feel that 18 is to young to fulfill the role of step parent which she would have to do if they got serious. JMO.

Does it really matter how the person got the kids? I mean, shoudn't the emphasis be on whether or not the person is taking care of his kids? I would rather date a man with 2 kids from 2 different women that is taking care of his kids vs. a man with 2 kids from the same woman who is a dead beat dad. Don't get me wrong, I know there are men who make it their business to try to increase the earth's population and they are definitely the one's to avoid because they are irresponsible. But what about the man who was in 2 different committed relationships which resulted in children. Should we ignore him because of the 2 different BMs?