psprincess' rush!

[andrea981]

I agree with some of the posters -- don't put a group on your bid card if you're going to be that disappointed about it. I don't think we're talking here about a girl who just wants her #1 sorority and won't settle for anything else. It seems as if Jemmy and Rollo have made negative impressions on princess from the beginning. Speaking from someone in a consistently lower-ranked sorority, while we certainly tried to do everything we could to make women feel chosen and welcome on bid day, one year we had a girl sobbing at bid day and she left early and never came to another meeting. Most of us members kind of had the reaction of like, why did you put us down if you thought we were something you had to cry about? Why show up once you saw that we were matched with you? She honestly nearly ruined bid day for the other girls that were there -- many of whom ranked our chapter #1 and started to have doubts as to their decision to do so if our chapter seemed that bad to the crying girl. Needless to say -- while I am all for maximizing options and giving every group the chance to show you who they are -- if you feel like the "crying girl" then just don't put them on a bid card. You're not doing them a favor -- trust me.

[psprincess]

Well let me start by saying that tonight was somewhat of a surprise. I tried really hard to go into it with a good attitude. While I hold nothing against Rollo and Jemmy (they are both great chapters!), they both feel a little too polarized for me at this point. That said, I really did enjoy all four chapters I went to tonight.

Roger was first. I have liked Roger from the beginning and keep having great parties there. We did a little philanthropy project, and their national philanthropy is really strong. They all seemed to be really involved in it. I talked to a great girl and people remembered me from before.

Marsaili was second. I have also liked Marsaili from the beginning. People were being a little negative about it at the beginning but I know I could really be happy there. It was a little awkward because my rusher decided to talk to the girl across the table because they were in the same physics class. I really had nothing to say about that, and couldn't get word in otherwise. I like them so much, and I am really hoping that it has no effect on me getting asked back tomorrow.

Rollo was third. Huge surprise. I really liked them tonight. It still seems a little too glamorous and high maintenance, but I'm sure not everyone is like that. Some of the girls remembered me, which was nice. I also talked to the chapter president. Since I am really into philanthropy, I wish theirs was stronger, but it is for a really good cause. Maybe if I join here, I will make it stronger and more of a focal point.

Jemmy was my last house of the night. I finally had a really good conversation with a sister. We seemed to have a lot in common, and I really liked her, I'm just worried the house is a little bit too laid back. Even though I like just hanging out, I like to go out and do things, too. I really want to like them, but its just not coming naturally.


In the end, it was a hard decision. I feel like I would be happy at Roger, Marsaili, or Rollo, and could grow to love Jemmy. I ended up putting down Roger and Marsaili, but would be ok with it if I were invited back to Rollo or Jemmy. I feel like they are a little bit too polar for me, so I can't guarantee I would sign anything, but I'm really glad to have had an open mind the whole time.

As a side note, I was reading a recruitment thread where some posters were talking about the order in which pnms were called or the direction they went showing how much the rusher/chapter liked them. I tried really hard not to think about it, but it was a little distressing. Im just hoping it really doesn't mean anything.

Apparently, I'm really bad at condensing my thoughts. Sorry to make you all read novels each time I post.

[AnatraAmore]

It sounds like you had a good night and I'm glad you really looked at Rollo and Jemmy closely again. Remember that Pref Night can change the way you look at a chapter and it may make your decision really clear. Try not to stress over the nonsense regarding the order you enter the room or anything else - you have no control over silly stuff like that and all it's going to do is make you distracted and nervous. Relax and do your best to enjoy your invites and make the best impression you can! Good Luck with Pref!!! (Is it tonite?)

[MerryGPhiB]

I agree with Sangers, don't worry about some of the comments you've read here. It is not true for all schools and all organizations. Enjoy your preference and congratulations for keeping such an open mind. It's amazing the things you begin to see when you do .... best wishes and I look forward to hearing your thoughts after preference.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by psprincess

Well let me start by saying that tonight was somewhat of a surprise. I tried really hard to go into it with a good attitude. While I hold nothing against Rollo and Jemmy (they are both great chapters!), they both feel a little too polarized for me at this point. That said, I really did enjoy all four chapters I went to tonight.

Roger was first. I have liked Roger from the beginning and keep having great parties there. We did a little philanthropy project, and their national philanthropy is really strong. They all seemed to be really involved in it. I talked to a great girl and people remembered me from before.

Marsaili was second. I have also liked Marsaili from the beginning. People were being a little negative about it at the beginning but I know I could really be happy there. It was a little awkward because my rusher decided to talk to the girl across the table because they were in the same physics class. I really had nothing to say about that, and couldn't get word in otherwise. I like them so much, and I am really hoping that it has no effect on me getting asked back tomorrow.

Rollo was third. Huge surprise. I really liked them tonight. It still seems a little too glamorous and high maintenance, but I'm sure not everyone is like that. Some of the girls remembered me, which was nice. I also talked to the chapter president. Since I am really into philanthropy, I wish theirs was stronger, but it is for a really good cause. Maybe if I join here, I will make it stronger and more of a focal point.

Jemmy was my last house of the night. I finally had a really good conversation with a sister. We seemed to have a lot in common, and I really liked her, I'm just worried the house is a little bit too laid back. Even though I like just hanging out, I like to go out and do things, too. I really want to like them, but its just not coming naturally.


In the end, it was a hard decision. I feel like I would be happy at Roger, Marsaili, or Rollo, and could grow to love Jemmy. I ended up putting down Roger and Marsaili, but would be ok with it if I were invited back to Rollo or Jemmy. I feel like they are a little bit too polar for me, so I can't guarantee I would sign anything, but I'm really glad to have had an open mind the whole time.

As a side note, I was reading a recruitment thread where some posters were talking about the order in which pnms were called or the direction they went showing how much the rusher/chapter liked them. I tried really hard not to think about it, but it was a little distressing. Im just hoping it really doesn't mean anything.

Apparently, I'm really bad at condensing my thoughts. Sorry to make you all read novels each time I post.

On the glamorous/high main part remember this is recruitment and people have to look a certain way. They are trying to look their best and may put much less effort into normal days.

[xoheatherxo]

i cant wait to hear what happens!!! good luck!!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by psprincess

As a side note, I was reading a recruitment thread where some posters were talking about the order in which pnms were called or the direction they went showing how much the rusher/chapter liked them. I tried really hard not to think about it, but it was a little distressing. Im just hoping it really doesn't mean anything.

I've never heard of such a thing. Don't worry about this.

[violetpretty]

Also, that was at Alabama.

[psprincess]

So no internet last night, plus I was super tired. I just came home, ate some more food, and fell asleep. I went to Roger and Jemmy, which I was initially pretty disappointed about, because I had some really good conversations at Marsaili until the day before. I really liked them and hoped that enough people would stick up for me, despite one terrible conversation.

Roger: This is it. I know it. Without a doubt. I love it more and more every day, and I have since day 1. I was preffed by a friend, which was awesome, because she could really be honest with me.

Jemmy: It was still ok. Nothing to rave about. It was just too relaxed. When all the other houses buzzed like beehives, it was fairly quiet in here. While they are great, I just really do not see myself here, brushing my teeth next to these ladies.

So, surprise surprise, I did 1. Roger 2. Jemmy. I didn't suicide, even though I contemplated it for a minute or two. I am just keeping my fingers crossed until bid night.

[Cane94G8r97]

I'm glad you had a good Pref Night. :-) Best wishes for a Bid Day that makes you happy.

[MerryGPhiB]

Here's thinking good thoughts for you! thanks for taking the time to post. I've been thinking about you and I'm sure others are too!

Smiles

[Leslie Anne]

I'm wishing you all the best!

[sarasmile]

Good luck! Keeping fingers crossed for Roger.


That said...if you do get Jemmy, please give it a shot with an open mind. You'll already have the bid and be committed to them for a year. You'll already have "taken the spot" from someone else. At that point, you have absolutely nothing to lose by attending Bid Day and getting to know the pledge class and also the non-rush side of the chapter members. (Don't initiate, of course, if you're "not feeling it" by then. But if you get a bid, make sure you give it a fair shot!)

Good luck again.

[Bella_Petit]

Bid Day was today! Hope you're having fun!

[violetpretty]

Hopefully the reason she hasn't posted yet is because she is out having fun with her new sisters, whichever group they are!