Gay On Fraternity Row
I personally am Gay. I made the choice to come out to my chapter a few brothers at a time before I was even Pinned as a pledge. My chapter at the time had at least one man who admitted his homophobia and racism. For me, he and the other men I thought would have a hard time were the last to tell. I began with two of my closest brothers, ironically, although my family does not know, my father was in town that night. We (my brothers and I) went to Perkins and just talked about the problems I had been having with my dad that weekend, and eventually I let them know. From there I just pulled guys aside one or two at a time. I didn't need to tell a few who had already guessed as much, but they were glad I had told them. When it came to the homophobes, I was apprehensive, I did it one at a time with another brother there to support me. In the end it all turned out fine. I have obviously initiated and am well on my way to high positions in the chapter.
However, when it came around to summer recruitment seminars this past spring, my orientation was brought up nonchalantly. A few of the men expressed concerns that there would be potentials who would not want to join a house with a gay man in residence. Let alone room with one. This was a bit unnerving, however, I understood their point of view. We are at a school in the middle of Iowa. Everything turned out ok again!
So really, gay in fraternity MS should not be much of an issue. It all comes back to campus lifestyles and trends.
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