advice needed

[mpmgm]

Has she looked into COB? I don't know which groups might open rush, but perhaps Gamma Phi Beta, Alpha Xi Delta, and/or Delta Gamma.

[AnchorAlum]

Originally Posted by mpmgm

Has she looked into COB? I don't know which groups might open rush, but perhaps Gamma Phi Beta, Alpha Xi Delta, and/or Delta Gamma.

I don't have knowledge of what chapter totals are, but DG pledged 63 girls at Auburn with a quota of 58.

[mpmgm]

I only mentioned DG because they are a fairly new chapter and open rushed in recent years. They may be over total now.

[FSUZeta]

it sounds trite to say, but sometimes pnms really do fall thru the cracks. sorority members can forget a girls name, or get the name wrong-the sorority may have a huge amount of legacies going thru...so many things can happen. it doesn't necessarily mean that no sorority wanted her. sometimes some of the chapters the pnms decline invitations from would have loved to have them as members.

if she would like to be greek, i urge her to contact the panhellenic office and get her name on the cob list. even if there are no sororities participating in cob activities this fall, some spots may open up spring semester.

[GPhiBLtColonel]

Originally Posted by mpmgm

I only mentioned DG because they are a fairly new chapter and open rushed in recent years. They may be over total now.

....and you mentioned Gamma Phi because?

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by GPhiBLtColonel

....and you mentioned Gamma Phi because?

I was wondering the same thing. From what I've read, our Auburn chapter seems pretty strong...I recall they got quota + last year as well as this year, don't know the numbers for the years prior.

[mpmgm]

GPhiB pledged a great girl from my hometown in COB two years ago under similar circumstances.....they got a top rushee that year who had otherwise fallen through the cracks during rush.

[summer_gphib]

I **think** that a few years ago, our Auburn chapter was struggling. Somewhere I saw the numbers, and it looks like they may have been the "small" chapter. (Not that there is necessarily anything WRONG with smaller chapters-- sometimes I think they are a real bonus.) Anyway, I don't think it was meant as offensive, although that was my first reaction too.

Correct me if I'm wrong on this! I now think our Auburn chapter is thriving. I personally think it's because we are colonizing like CRAZY and we're building a stronger presence in the south.

[AUThetaChi]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I was wondering the same thing. From what I've read, our Auburn chapter seems pretty strong...I recall they got quota + last year as well as this year, don't know the numbers for the years prior.

One thing to remember is that GPhiB started its Auburn chapter sometime around 1995 so it is still new, relatively speaking. I understand that they are doing just fine now. DG is even newer, having returned a few years ago after a 30-year hiatus. They seem to be doing well too.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by AUThetaChi

One thing to remember is that GPhiB started its Auburn chapter sometime around 1995 so it is still new, relatively speaking. I understand that they are doing just fine now. DG is even newer, having returned a few years ago after a 30-year hiatus. They seem to be doing well too.

Not quite correct.

Gamma Phi Chapter of Gamma Phi Beta was founded at Auburn University in 1968.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlum

I don't have knowledge of what chapter totals are, but DG pledged 63 girls at Auburn with a quota of 58.

And as far as I know, we pledge at least quota every year.

[AOII Angel]

Tell your daughter that rush, like life, is not always fair. We'd love to have a better system that allows sororities and PNMs to better understand each other before making these kinds of decisions, but no one has come up with a better solution. Yes...wonderful, accomplished, beautiful, brilliant women are passed over every single year, not because they have anything wrong with them but because the system is imperfect and set up to fail frequently. Some fault lies with the sororities who often pick out their new member class prior to rush even starting, but some lies with the PNMs who also frequently refuse to consider any group other than their preconceived top choices. The problem is, no one on either side really knows how sincere the other is, so assumptions are made. At big recruitments like Alabama and Auburn, women are cut without the chapter even knowing if they did or did not like the PNM because they have to cut a large number of women every night. It can't be personal if that's the case. If she really wants to be a part of greek life, she needs to lift her head up, realize she has a lot to offer and try her best to show the groups what she can do. If there are no opportunities to COB, then turning her energies toward other extracurricular activities can be just as rewarding. That being said, I know it hurts. When I was a Rho Chi, I think it hurt me almost as bad as it hurt my released PNMs. I know very few women that don't deserve sorority membership.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I post this a lot, but I will do so again.

I was president of a chapter that participated in a very large formal rush. Sometimes, we just plain made mistakes. With PNM's in the four digits, we occasionally mixed girls up or made data entry typos. It can happen.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I post this a lot, but I will do so again.

I was president of a chapter that participated in a very large formal rush. Sometimes, we just plain made mistakes. With PNM's in the four digits, we occasionally mixed girls up or made data entry typos. It can happen.

In all honesty, we had women with identical names at least twice when I was in school, and more afterwards. We would invite both women back to parties, even though we only liked the one. Finally, we arbitrarily selected one of each "set" and put a . at the end of her name on our database. As it was, we had so many Heathers and Amys, it was almost impossible to keep them straight!

So, yes, the best of the best can slip through the cracks!