I need help to try and stop my mom from harrassing me about my fraternity

[BYXEagle]

It also may have been your mom has done some research, but about the wrong chapters of your fraternity. Every national fraternity has good chapters and bad chapters. I don't know anything about your chapter, but I know at USM, Pikes are not popular by any means. They always fight with the other fraternities and many of them go on academic probation at the end of each semester,while Millsaps College Pikes are the best men on campus. You also might want to make sure that a situation like that is not going on where you mom has studied a little bit about your fraternity and only found stuff about the bad chapters. I agree with the idea of having a family day that would be a great opportunity to show her what it means to you.

[Tom Earp]

I take since only a Mom is mentioned, there is no Dad.

Moms are the most protective and worriesome of either of the two parents in life.

I have been the first to go to college in my total family and the only one to join a GLO. Neither were sure about this and I am sure worried.

Well, I left a Fraternity and started a local that later affiliated with a major Fraternity.

They would visit and got to know the Guys (Brothers) and were warmly welcomed and accepted by them.

The main problem may be the unkmow for Mom. Her little boy is on his own and is really worried about you.

Just try to not prove her wrong!

[RutgersPIKE]

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

I take since only a Mom is mentioned, there is no Dad.

Moms are the most protective and worriesome of either of the two parents in life.

I have been the first to go to college in my total family and the only one to join a GLO. Neither were sure about this and I am sure worried.

Well, I left a Fraternity and started a local that later affiliated with a major Fraternity.

They would visit and got to know the Guys (Brothers) and were warmly welcomed and accepted by them.

The main problem may be the unkmow for Mom. Her little boy is on his own and is really worried about you.

Just try to not prove her wrong!

my dad was just pissed that i went behind their backs and pledged, but he said right away that it was my decision and i had to live with the affects of that decision, hes a real easy going guy

[BSUPhiSig'92]

I've been out of school a long time, but neither of my parents wanted me to join a fraternity. My mother had been in a sorority, but my father had gone the Navy route instead of college and didn't understand what a fraternity was all about. They ultimately let me make my decision, but for a while they were very apprehensive about the fraternity. It wasn't until they actually got to know some of my brothers and see how truly happy I was that they dropped their objections.

Ultimately I became a Greek Life advisor, and while my father never understood what I did (he thought I planned keg parties for a living), they both realized that joining a fraternity was ultimately the right move for me.

Give your mom time, she'll eventually start to see it from your perspective. Moms often look at things from the worst-case-scenario viewpoint, but in time if she sees her fears aren't coming true she'll ease on her objections. (and it doesn't change, no matter how old you get, Mom will always worry!)