I need help to try and stop my mom from harrassing me about my fraternity

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by RutgersPIKE

Thanks and to answer your question, I dont want to be that independent from my mom, we are real close and she is my best friend, I do not disagree with her that school comes first and I wouldnt mind paying for college myself since I have twin little brothers coming up and I know its going to be tough for her to put them through college, however being a Criminal Justice major having my mom and dad pay for half my student loans will really help me out in the future since Im going to be living off a state troopers salary but I dont mind keeping my grades up since I grew up with my mom pushing me to my fullest potential academically, I thank you for your advice and I will not give up my mom and as for it being MY education, im my moms "baby" gross i know lol, but for the longest time it was just her and me growing up in tough times and she doesnt want me to screw up my opportunities and I am able to balance academics and social, as well as she has a hard time letting go, but I thank you agian for your advice, and of course those kind words about us PIKE boys, thanks again

RutgersPIKE

So are more State Troopers, criminal justice majors these days? I dunno. And there are quite of few GCers that are in law enforcement around hear.

Actually, you need to speak to Jon and DeltaAlum is extremely helpful. There are a few others I could point out. There are also your PIKE brothers here that are ultra-professional.

I work at a large University in the Pacific Northwest. So, I know what it takes to get kids through college. In fact, I am faculty...

The issue you are having is not knowing ALL the things in your future. Grades should be kept up, but one goes to college to expand their breadth and depth of knowledge and wisdom...

Mostly all GCers here who are older have their degrees. Many have secondary and tertiary degrees. So, you are gaining insight and access to a lifestyle unimaginable.

PM folks you need to.

And like I said, when you see your mom again, give her a hug and kiss and tell her she is a wonderful mother... When's the last time you did that anyways?

[Senusret I]

RutgersPIKE,

Maybe your chapter could have a "Parents Weekend" where you invite all the parents of the actives and pledges, have a nice barbecue or even a sit down banquet depending on your budget. You could do a slide show that shows your brotherhood and philanthropy. Maybe intercut it with clips of brothers talking about what Pike means to them.

Then you could do some sort of appreciation skit for the moms, grandmas, whoever else attends and give them a rose or whatever the fraternity flower is.

You gotta get moms at their hearts -- they cry when you start kindergarten, they cry at assemblies, they cry when you start college, when you get married, etc. But they ESPECIALLY cry when they are appreciated.

I'm tellin you.... a rose and a tear-jerking song and she will never give you a hard time again.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

You gotta get moms at their hearts -- they cry when you start kindergarten, they cry at assemblies, they cry when you start college, when you get married, etc. But they ESPECIALLY cry when they are appreciated.

I'm tellin you.... a rose and a tear-jerking song and she will never give you a hard time again.

Awwww......Now I going to go hug my mommy.....she might cry.

[RutgersPIKE]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

RutgersPIKE,

Maybe your chapter could have a "Parents Weekend" where you invite all the parents of the actives and pledges, have a nice barbecue or even a sit down banquet depending on your budget. You could do a slide show that shows your brotherhood and philanthropy. Maybe intercut it with clips of brothers talking about what Pike means to them.

Then you could do some sort of appreciation skit for the moms, grandmas, whoever else attends and give them a rose or whatever the fraternity flower is.

You gotta get moms at their hearts -- they cry when you start kindergarten, they cry at assemblies, they cry when you start college, when you get married, etc. But they ESPECIALLY cry when they are appreciated.

I'm tellin you.... a rose and a tear-jerking song and she will never give you a hard time again.

Thats a great idea and so true at the same time and I know that to my mom being apart of a family, no matter what kind of family that is, is extremely important to her, she just has a bad case of empty nest i think, I know we are talking about revamping our parents weekend, the only problem is convincing my mom to come up for the weekend lol

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

And like I said, when you see your mom again, give her a hug and kiss and tell her she is a wonderful mother... When's the last time you did that anyways?

and to answer the other question, I give my mom a hug almost everyday I am not upset at her for having her feelings, I would just like her to see the many good things about greek life, and I will make sure i go up to her right now and tell her how much i love her and respect her opinion and what a wonderful mother she is as soon as im done typing this, ill even wake her up lol, but i will also tell her that i am certainly capable of making my own decisions, after all she is the one who raised me, that should help lol