Cutting the Umbilical Cord

couggirl · #1 08-06-2007, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

Those are the same parents that set the girl's class schedule in high school until she graduates, picks her major for her and then plans her class schedule every semester of college until she graduates.

Those children are not raised to make decisions, let alone think independantly! They wouldn't know how to act in an interview and they would only feel safe with mommy by their side.

This is my parents. the only difference is that since i graduated from high school I reaslized what my mom was doing and would not let her behave this way. She still tells me what to do and will get mad at me for not listening to her. This includes anything like her telling me that I am not using the right bank (yeah she yelled at me about that) to more personal things. The sad part is that I have wanted my mom to let me be an adult since high school graduation, but all of my realtives seem to yell at me for being mean to my mom. What? I am being mean because I don't let my mom control my life. WOW. I guess I am just the worlds worst person because I want to be an adult and live my own life. I should really just be ashamed that I am such a mean person that I do not let my mother control my life. well, i guess i am just going to hell for sure now.

lillady85 · #2 08-06-2007, 09:28 PM

LOVE this thread.
A class I had a year ago had this same discussion and there were tons of kids who admitted to asking their parents with doing their resume, coming to school to see them for small things like having a bad day, going to interviews, etc. Two girls even admitted that their parents edit their papers (and not in a I'll check for typos way). I can't stand this label being put on kids in my generation but it's so true and its disgusting. My parents have always been there to support me and guide me, but not write my resume and cover letter much less go to the interview and expect to be inside! I understand calling your parents everyday if you are a freshman, 3000 miles away and you are homesick for a while. But when you can't even bear to be apart from your parents because something MIGHT go wrong and you don't know how to handle it yourself, it's time to grow up. How will anyone ever learn if they never make the mistake on their own?

DeltAlum · #3 08-06-2007, 09:42 PM

When my wife gets here, I'll give you my opinion.

TrueBlueKappa · #4 08-06-2007, 10:50 PM

I used to work as the receptionist at the Dean's Office for one of the colleges at my university. I can't tell you the number of times a parent would call and want to speak to a professor (or the Dean!!!) because their kid got a bad grade on a paper or was sick on a test day or -enter random excuse here- and wanted us "fix the situation." Never once can I recall a student acting that way, but I got calls like that from parents a few times a week.

OneTimeSBX · #5 08-07-2007, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by DeltAlum

When my wife gets here, I'll give you my opinion.

when she gets here, she'll give you your opinion!

AlphaFrog · #6 08-07-2007, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

when she gets here, she'll give you your opinion!

There goes the point...

It went that way --->

KSig RC · #7 08-07-2007, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

when she gets here, she'll give you your opinion!

And when she gets here, he'll give you the opinion that she gave him! Because she's the one giving and he's just passing it along! See what's happening is that he doesn't have an opinion until she fills him in!

It's a crazy crazy loop! Holy crap!

SWTXBelle · #8 08-07-2007, 01:14 PM

Back on topic - I had a former student who never set his alarm at college - his mother called to wake him up every morning. He dropped out - and is now, God help him, in Iraq. Mom can't call and wake him up now . . .

My daughter is applying to college, and I am constantly slapping my hand to keep from "helping" too much. This is her deal, and she is practically an adult,so although it is KILLING me I'm going to send her to Baltimore on her own for her campus visit/interview in September. Sigh.

ForeverRoses · #9 08-07-2007, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Back on topic - I had a former student who never set his alarm at college - his mother called to wake him up every morning. He dropped out - and is now, God help him, in Iraq. Mom can't call and wake him up now . . .

My daughter is applying to college, and I am constantly slapping my hand to keep from "helping" too much. This is her deal, and she is practically an adult,so although it is KILLING me I'm going to send her to Baltimore on her own for her campus visit/interview in September. Sigh.

I know it's painful- but GOOD FOR YOU! It's one thing to be there for your child if she asks for help or an opinion, it's another thing to helicopter!