Rec for my sister

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

If they already know her, and cut her last year, I doubt a rec would help her this time around.

She cut them.

I would write her a recommendation for your chapter, it can absolutely do her no harm.

[CrimsonBlues]

Originally Posted by _Lisa_

She cut them.

I would write her a recommendation for your chapter, it can absolutely do her no harm.

Should I briefly acknowledge what happened last year/her "maturation" then, or just gloss over it and talk up her many positive qualities?

[adpiucf]

Write her a rec and keep in mind that the vocal minority last year are even more minor this year-- the majority of your sisters rushing on the floor will be from last year's pledge class.

It's up to your sister and the chapter from here. I understand your wanting what is best for her, but you can only do so much and she's going to have to go through some bumps in the road now that she is an adult. If your chapter is struggling numbers-wise, they will likely to do all they can to make those numbers. In this situation, pledging a legacy would probably be high on the list of priorities toward meeting this goal. In rhis case, there would be some pressure from your higher-ups to pledge interested legacies and pressure to not release them.

Take her to lunch or send her a special gift (maybe a bracelet) as a "Good luck" with recruitment send-off. And best of luck to you both!

[AOII Angel]

I think writing a rec that explained exactly what you explained to us would be as much as you can do for her. She made her choices last year that unfortunately may color her future rush. It's a shame that we force difficult decisions on young women and expect them to makes the "right" choice or else. Tell her to be humble and to not take offense when people bring up topics such as loyalty to her group, loyalty to her sister (you), etc. It's going to happen, and she won't do herself any favors by getting defensive. Butter your sisters up a bit too. Let them know how much you love your sisterhood with them and how much you would love the same with your biological sister if given the chance. After that, it's out of your hands. Sorority life is not the end all be all, so if it doesn't work out, be prepared to comfort your sister and offer alternatives.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Write her a rec. I can't talk about exactly why this is a good idea without giving away MS info, but there are policies that favor alumnae recs that even most active members are not aware of. So even if you think your chapter is bidding women without recs, they may not be. Sorry, this is cryptic, but the point is that it can't hurt.