Married women can't join sororities???

[tld221]

a member is a member is a member. if you are down for the cause, you make time for it. single, engaged, or married, traditional, non-traditional. obviously, life happens too - no one is saying "you=XYZ, 24/7."

unless, at the ultra-competitive schools, that is how it is - you eat, breath and sh*t XYZ? someone be honest and say, "yes, my school is kinda like that" because i would imagine at a school where greek life is the law, there are chapters that are 24/7 on their grind and perhaps it wouldnt make sense to initiate someone who has other things in their life (ie. a husband, kids, their work/career even, if they run a business, or a full time athlete/traveller? caring for some other family member, etc) because chances are, they would almost never put the sorority first.

[marriedPNM]

I guess it just doesn't make sense to me when people say something like "Well, SusiePNM is married and would not have time for the sorority... because she's married." I have no idea why that rubs me the wrong way, maybe because that sentiment reflects some archaic idea of a where women should belong in the world. I am married and I am incredibly active on campus, not once has someone questioned my ability to particpate in XYZ organization because of something as insignificant as marriage.

I am pretty much boggled at this concept that I may get rejected for something so dumb, when I know for a fact I would be a dedicated sister.

If you do not mind indulging me a bit more, please keep the comments coming. Thank you!

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by tld221

unless, at the ultra-competitive schools, that is how it is - you eat, breath and sh*t XYZ? someone be honest and say, "yes, my school is kinda like that" because i would imagine at a school where greek life is the law, there are chapters that are 24/7 on their grind and perhaps it wouldnt make sense to initiate someone who has other things in their life (ie. a husband, kids, their work/career even, if they run a business, or a full time athlete/traveller? caring for some other family member, etc) because chances are, they would almost never put the sorority first.

At my school, there are chapters like that. There are also chapters that aren't. That's the nice thing about having 18... they all have different time commitments required.