too many rec letters?

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I still remember receiving 5 ADPi recs one year on a girl who was a Chi Omega legacy. I remember this because we got the same form filled out with the exact same things, FIVE times. We got FIVE identical photos of her. It was basically the same recommendation, signed by 5 different ADPis.

It was actually pretty funny. I don't where she ended up pledging or if she pledged anywhere, but I'd imagine if she had 5 ADPi recs, she probably had the same amount for every other chapter.

And I can't even imagine how many recs our Chi-O chapter received for her!!!

One rec per sorority is sufficient, followed by 1-3 letters of support from alumnae. The letters (1-2 pages long each) help flesh out your application with personal anecdotes about your sisterhood attributes.

If you have an outpouring of ladies offering to help, that's amazing-- if you end up getting more than one rec/referernce form, it's ok-- but just remember that it's the same information.

Over and over and over again.

A letter would be better, but 1-3 letters will say just as much as 5-10!

You can say, "I appreciate your offer to help so much! I have a rec and letters for XYZ sorority, so I am definitely covered there, but I would love your advice about recruitment/share your sorority stories with me/I still need recs for ABC; would you happen to know how I might find someone?/etc."

I don't think anyone will be over-alienated by being told that they don't have to fill out a form, possibly follow-up with you, mail it for you, etc. They just want to help. So let them tell you about their experience with Greek Life or give you some tips for recruitment conversation.

ETA: Where someone has multiple relatives in the same sorority who want to help, I guess it's a judgement call on the part of the PNM and her family members.