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They matter somewhat...
Ooweeeee, CrimsonTide, you had me giggling...I sure hope there ain't no Shabba or Craig Mack waiting for me, LOL.
My first boyfriend was BEAUTIFUL. I mean, drop dead GORGEOUS! But he was, AND STILL IS, a damn fool. Physically beautiful on the outside, but inside, he's just ROTTEN...not all the way to the core, cuz he can be a sweetheart sometimes, but he's a ROTTEN mate. I'm a few days older than him, and he'd open doors for me and say, "Age before beauty". Super conceited...super DUPER conceited. He taught me many great lessons about men, but one of the best ones was: PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES. And this man is NOT pretty, believe me. We're cool now - he's one of my best friends in fact. It's easy to be his friend WHEN HE AIN'T YO MAN.
I think looks matter to a point - there are some things that, physically, I just won't deal with. Attraction isn't always just physical - sometimes it's a voice, a look...one person's version of attractive may be totally different from anothers, or to follow CrimsonTide's example, "One person's Morris Chestnut may be another person's Shabba Ranks", LOL.
Physically, I will not date a man with more hair than me (unless it's Eric Benet, and he's married, LOL). Cornrows are OUT. I ain't too big on earrings either, but that's not a deal breaker. The lazy eye...absolutely no way. I also don't date men with messed up teeth for the same reason - modern medicine can fix both of those problems. I also only like men with at least a mustache, preferably just a mustache and no beard. I hate to see a baldheaded upper lip.
But then again, there are things that I like that other folks don't, for example...I LOVES me a SHORT MAN!!! Give me a brotha who is about 5'8" and I'm in heaven! A stocky man too, with a thick neck - don't like a brotha who is too skinny. And I have a weird fetish for facial scars. A short, stocky, thick neck man with a conservative haircut, a few facial scars, a nice full mustache, and good teeth...yeah, that's it, LOL.
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