Desperation!! Please help =[

LPIDelta · #1 07-23-2007, 04:51 PM

When people show you who they are, you need to believe them!!!

He's treating you like this because you let him....

And lots of other Dr. Phil- and Oprah- isms.

PS--coming to an online message board is desparate. Go out and make some friends.

NatRae27 · #2 07-23-2007, 04:59 PM

Geez you people are crude. What's the point of online boards then if people don't use them for advice? Jesus. Forget I even asked.

smiley21 · #3 07-23-2007, 05:09 PM

I fail to see that anything said was crude. You asked for advice and you got it. FYI, I think everyone is right. Why hang around something that is ruining your life? I don't understand when people ask for advice and then get mad if they don't like it. That is the best we can give you based on what you told us because WE DONT KNOW YOU. Frankly, I think that when it comes to situations like this...ask someone you know.

And yeah I don't get the "kid" thing either. I read it and immediately thought "teacher and student" or something like that.

tld221 · #4 07-23-2007, 05:10 PM

why do i feel like the title of this thread is what the caption reads over this poor child's head?

ok seriously NatRae27 - why come to GC for relationship advice? i mean we'd give it to you but im wondering is this the first place you thought to run to? im so

NatRae27 · #5 07-23-2007, 05:14 PM

No, actually this is the last place I thought to come to, I was just surfing and found this out of interest...and decided to post my problem just for the heck of it.

And we both just graduated high school this year, is it that big of a deal to refer to him as a kid? My goodness...people paid attention to that more than my actual issue.

And, it's not that I don't like the advice, I agree that I need to move on, I was simply hoping to find some people who could relate to me and tell me HOW they moved on, because I have problems doing so, I can't just drop my feelings for the guy, despite all he's done.

NatRae27 · #6 07-23-2007, 05:19 PM

I don't want any of you to think I'm a rude person or anything, I'm actually very nice! Ha.. it's just that I feel like I have no one to turn to anymore because all my friends, who all have very successful, happy relationships of their own mind you, seem to not understand how I feel because they haven't been through anything like this. So they all just tell me to go and find someone else, as though I can just snap my fingers and forget about someone I like so much and find someone better...

Idk if that makes any sense but hopefully someone knows what I mean.

smiley21 · #7 07-23-2007, 05:20 PM

Do you plan on going to college? Believe me, once that gets started, you won't care about what happened in high school. You have plenty of time to move on.

NatRae27 · #8 07-23-2007, 05:26 PM

Yeah, I do plan on going to college. It can't come soon enough either!
I do feel like I'll be able to get my mind off him when college rolls around, too, so that will definitely be a good thing...

smiley21 · #9 07-23-2007, 05:31 PM

When you do go to college, get involved! Join clubs, make friends, and be serious about school. Shake off the drama of high school.

LPIDelta · #10 07-23-2007, 05:31 PM

Why do you like this guy SOOO much? He doesn't seem to treasure you at all, and that makes me wonder about your self-esteem. At your age, you need someone who will respect you, want to spend time with you and someone who you can share experiences with--not the boy you described.

Holding yourself in the highest esteem is not conceited--as a young woman, think of yourself as a princess and that only a true prince will get your attention. This is especially important if you are going to go to college--you don't want to just going out with anyone who will treat you as this guy did, because that is how reputations are formed.

I say spend some time getting to know yourself and doing things that celebrate who you are as a young woman. Stop worrying about those that don't appreciate you for the princess that you are.