Okay, not much more happens with this part of the story so ima try to speed through.
As I mentioned, NYU's rush isn't formal at all. So after day 2, there really wasnt anything else "structured" to attend. More social get togethers, either at the house or out on the town. There was a guy that was rushing on my floor and the guys always did cooler stuff (watching "the game" at the house, going to Hooters, 3 on 3 basketball - vs. "hey lets go to times square" or "let's talk about pop culture while we paint our nails and pretend to get to know each other"). he was really intent on TKE (which i thought was the "popular" frat but apparently not according to upperclassmen. :Confused: )
Anyway, the end of the week is near and I decide i'm only gonna hang out with
Theta Phi Beta - they're cool and I felt like they had the most diversity of all the orgs. I wasnt sure about how getting a bid worked. I wasnt sure if they would give me one. I started to panic - how do they decide? What if they don't like me as much as i like them?
Thursday nite,
Mona calls - she wants me to come over for a meeting. She says, not to panic, and just wear something nice, but not dressy. Great! i think. i throw on some (nicer) jeans, boots and a green blouse (i think that was when peasant tops were in for a millisecond, with the big bell sleeves at the cuff?) and head over to 3N the next day - nervous of course!
Friday nite, all the sisters are wearing business casual. Mona and the President,
Patrice are wearing suits and talk to us PNMS about the "seriousness" of being greek... its not all fun and games, there is actual work, there are dues (which weren't expensive in retrospect, esp. because it was a local, but as a freshman with a work-study job and lots of loans i was like WTF?
Then they get to the "new membership period." They stress their no-hazing policy
but do mention more than once that the membership period will be challenging and will "show them if we have what it takes to be in a sorority." Again, i don't know what this entails, but i'm still indifferent as they havent given any REAL info to go on.
There's a Q&A period. So awkward moment: one PNM asks, "what happens in the summer? do you guys hang out even when there's no school?" the president says "well, we live in different areas, so unless were closeby, then not really. i, personally may call the girls to see what's going on towards the end of the summer, but its up to the individual sister."
THEN another girl asks, "well, let's say i decide to transfer (a big possibility, as many students transfer in/out NYU first year) what happens, am i still a sister?" All the sisters looked around for a long time... and finally someone says, "well, WE would, but once you get to your new school you're free to do what you want with the greek life there."
and then the president jumps in really quick like "well of course we
encourage you to keep your loyalty to us, but since we're a local, we can't tell you not to pledge another sorority if you left NYU."
food for thought... if i up and left, i MIGHT get a phone call from a sister, and i could just as easy go to another school and be in another sorority. actually that appealed to me, that TPhiB was non-binding (i mean, now, i'm like WTF!)
The girls sing a song, which was a little too long for my comfort (and the other PNMs, we were just looking at each other like, arent they finished?) they give us lavendar roses and chocolates, and send us on our merry way. They say to stay by our cell phones and that they would call us if we got a bid.
I went to bed but of course couldnt really sleep. not only was i stressed about getting a bid, but i hadn't done schoolwork or reading in days. I sat my rose and chocolates on my windowsill (the building puts the heat on at night, so hot that we have to open the windows and find some happy medium). In a somewhat depressing ending to part 1, my chocolates had melted into a mess from the heater, my rose mustve fallen out of the window, and my phone had not rang when i woke up the next morning.
Ok, i gotta get back to work
but next post will fast forward to Summer 2003, where i work at a summer camp with some interesting people... me and
Chris will be no more... and my pursuit in greek life will continue on.
(i'll definitely update - dont wanna leave yall hanging)
Hybrid Mode
