Deactivating and Letter to EO

[Ch2tf]

Is deactivation from the house as the OP put it the same as deactivating from the sorority as a whole? If so, OP, was the offense so hurtful/contradictory to your reasons for joining that you would leave the sorority membership as a whole and not just the house?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Ch2tf

Is deactivation from the house as the OP put it the same as deactivating from the sorority as a whole? If so, OP, was the offense so hurtful/contradictory to your reasons for joining that you would leave the sorority membership as a whole and not just the house?

Yes, generally you can't withdraw from your chapter without withdrawing from the sorority as a whole. You can sometimes "go alum" earlier than normal but most GLOs have specific rules for that involving course load and other situations. This is probably not covered under that.

However advisors can sometimes work things out for you if you want to remain a member of the sorority or you can sometimes reactivate as an alumna later.

[Tom Earp]

You have seen many good posts all giving good advice.

Depending on how close you are to graduation and this does not seem the case you will not be able to go Alum status.

Is there a conflict with just a few or all? Is it your fault and not thiers?

Is the Chapter a mess?

How long have you been a member? Did you participate or not get your way?

Hard questions that you may have to look at.

If it still does not fit, and you still want to get out without checking your options then do it.

One Chapter does not a GLO make nor do those members. No matter how much advice you get, You are the one to make it fianl.

Who is the loser, You or them?

[Ch2tf]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Yes, generally you can't withdraw from your chapter without withdrawing from the sorority as a whole. You can sometimes "go alum" earlier than normal but most GLOs have specific rules for that involving course load and other situations. This is probably not covered under that.

However advisors can sometimes work things out for you if you want to remain a member of the sorority or you can sometimes reactivate as an alumna later.

Thanks for the explanation, that is what I thought. It just struck me as "excessive" (not knowing the situation behind the OP's deactivation) to leave your org entirely when your problem/issue is with a specific "chapter" or member(s).

[33girl]

Well, when you consider the $$$ in dues you would spend as a collegian and having to live with people in the chapter for several years, it's really not excessive. Staying a member if you really want to quit would make you miserable (and poorer).

To the OP: I really hope that you have gone through your standards board or at the very least, your pledge mom or big sister and tried to work things out with your chapter to the best of your ability before you do this - as it is irreversible.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Ch2tf

Thanks for the explanation, that is what I thought. It just struck me as "excessive" (not knowing the situation behind the OP's deactivation) to leave your org entirely when your problem/issue is with a specific "chapter" or member(s).

Honestly, I think part of it is that there are girls who just want the letters by their names and will then try to duck out of responsibilities but keep the letters. Also, for NPC sororities, while it is a lifelong commitment, there's a reason the collegiates are called "Actives." That is where your primary benefits will be gained and that's where you do the bulk of contributing to your sorority. Only a percentage of alumnae are active so if you reduce the number of collegiate members, you reduce the number of active alumnae.

That said, sometimes situations can be worked out. Sometimes.

[Rudey]

It's not a job. It's an org that years down the line very few people will care about. On top of that they don't have the time and resources to scour the country and make sure you're unemployed.

Burn that bridge. Burn it good. Get all your feelings out so you don't feel like you left anything unsaid.

-Rudey