Would you have sex?

[bluethunder]

well, as the BIBLE points out, love really does cover a multitude of sin... substitute the word "imperfection" for sin. LOVE sees past a lot of imperfections...and an STD is just that: an imperfection. i am in no way suggesting we all go out and recruit significant others with an STD-- no matter how "non-life threatening" it may be. what i AM suggesting is what love does: love says i am willing to look past your faults and still accept you. think about the person you are currently with: if that person DID NOT KNOW they had an STD and went to the doctor and suddenly became aware of it, would you up and leave them? what if it were completely curable and they were completely honest and just did not know they had it? does your "I LOVE YOU" crumble in the face of chlamydia? but worse still, what if it WASN'T curable-- do you just discard the person you love? there are a ton of people who would argue "self preservation,' but there are tons more still who would stick it out because at the end of the day, that's what love does--that's being a real friend. it's almost like saying you love someone until you find out what their worst imperfections are. to paraphrase t.d. jakes, "isn't that what you really want from a relationship? to know that NO MATTER WHAT, you won't be abandoned--no matter what? To be yourself and hide nothing-- not even your worst imperfection--and know that your friend won't run out on you?" you never know how strong your love is until the relationship is threatened.
i say this because this is a testimony of mine and i learned a lot about what it means to love someone in spite of their flaws. and if someone cares to hear my testimony, PM me. i will most gladly share it with you.
(and no, i don't have anything, but i have been in such a situation and had to re-evaluate what love really means for me.)

[The Original Ape]

I'm sorry sista. There is NO WAY I could know some girl has a disease and have sex with her! Aint that much money in the world!

[jojapeach]

Well said, Soror bluethunder.

Bottom line: if it's really love, then your partner will tell you. If you're not in a relationship with that person or you don't respect each other, then you won't care enough to tell anyway. That's probably a great source of the climbing STD rates.

[bluethunder]

Originally posted by The Original Ape
I'm sorry sista. There is NO WAY I could know some girl has a disease and have sex with her! Aint that much money in the world!

brother Original Ape...
i never said anything about money...nor did i suggest actively goint out and recruiting someone who had an STD to have sex with...and what if it turned out to be someone you were already involved with and loved? just something to think about...

(Soror Joja Peach: you know we think out of the same brain anyway...)

[TRSimon]

Originally posted by bluethunder
brother Original Ape...
i never said anything about money...nor did i suggest actively goint out and recruiting someone who had an STD to have sex with...and what if it turned out to be someone you were already involved with and loved? just something to think about...

(Soror Joja Peach: you know we think out of the same brain anyway...)

We are all entitled to our own opinions. Soror blu, everyone would not run off and have sexual intercourse with somebody with an STD, no matter how much love there was in the relationship. That's real, and that's okay, too.

These diseases have very real consequences, even some of the ones that seem "harmless" can lead to heightened chances of cervical cancer and other reproductive problems. That is a very real chance for some to take, even in the name of "love". This doesn't mean anyone would stop loving anyone else. Love can be shown in a myriad of ways that don't include sex.

Everyone who wants to take those chances in the name of love has that right as an adult, but those who don't want to take those chances have that right, too.

[MaMaBuddha]

i probably would not have sex.

but what if you found out that your partner was HIV positive and you weren't. would you still take that step and continue a sexual relationship?

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by bluethunder
brother Original Ape...
i never said anything about money...nor did i suggest actively goint out and recruiting someone who had an STD to have sex with...and what if it turned out to be someone you were already involved with and loved? just something to think about...

(Soror Joja Peach: you know we think out of the same brain anyway...)

Dear sista,

I hope I didn't give you the impression that I thought you said something about money. The point I was trying to make is that no amount of money could persuade me to have sex with someone who I know is infected with a venereal disease. I assumed the question required the respondent to reply as if the relationship between the two people was either new or a casual one. One would assume that if it was a serious relationship, there wouldn't be any mystery. The infected person would've told the other party about the disease before thangs got deep. As for your question, I don't allow myself to catch feelings for someone unless all my questions are answered; and believe me, I got alot of 'em!

[Professor]

the sad part is that many of us have dated someone with an STD - I for one had crabs and talk about the experience during Project Alpha. I was 19 and clueless but learned a valuable lesson.

To answer the question, yes, I could DATE someone with an STD but I would not sleep with her.

[IncontRHOllable]

Would I have sex with someone that has an STD? Only under the circumstances that we are already married and he was not aware of the non-life threatening STD before we married. If my husband has something curable, he could take care of that and then we could resume being intimate, no need for me to be upset because he was not aware of it before we married. If my husband has something like Herpes, since he was not aware of this before we married then I probably would continue relations with him with protection and medication for him to prevent him from spreading it to me. If its HIV or something life threatening, I don't know that I could continue to sleep with an infected husband, I'd have to pray that my faith fail me not.
If my husband was aware of his non- life threatening infection when we married and he neglected to tell me, then I am not sure if I would be so forgiving because there is a trust issue that has been compromised through his lying. If my husband got infected after being married to me, he has broken his vow and would have to move the heck on.

[PrettyBoy]

Hell no. I wouldn't have sex with any woman unless we were married or in a long term relationship. If she caught an STD I would know it wasn't from me so then that would only mean one thing. She cheated on me, so in turn I would dump her like a bad habit.

[D&G Lite Blu 22]

In the famous words of Whitney Houston: HELL TO THE NAW!!!!

[cheerfulgreek]

No

[Boom_Quack13]

Absolutely not.

[Dionysus]

Hell naw!!! People, if you're horny, just go to bed early and start masturbating!

[raggann03]

At this point I've never been in the situation so right now I'd have to say probably not. But there are many variables one must consider that could possibly change the answer.