Adoption: Would you do it? Why? Why not?

[AKA2D '91]

LMAO!!!

[*ClassyKeshia*]

I would definetly adopt a child!! I think that it is a great idea to want to adopt a child/children. Personally i would like to adopt a child because I know that i would be able to provide them with a much better llife filled with love, care etc. Many children are in situations that only God knows what urges their parents/guardians to actually continue to have them in those negative situations. It really hurts my heart to know that people have children and for some strange reason, they dont take care of them in a proper manner. I am just happy that their are people who would take them in as their own.

[KSUViolet06]

I would in a heartbeat and actually plan to once I am done with school and am ready to start my family. There are so so so many Black children in the US child welfare systems (of all ages) that need a good loving home.

I've actually already thought of the type of child I want. Black boys spend the longest amount of time in the system waiting to be adopted, so I definitely would want to adopt a boy maybe 5 years old or younger.

[Little32]

Adoption is a possibility that I have considered, though I have not decided whether I want kids yet. If I adopted, I would choose an older child, probably older than 5 because then I wouldn't have to potty train .

Another thing that I have considered, for down the line, is possibly being a foster parent. At that point, I would probably want to be a foster parent to children older than 12.

If I ever did adopt, I would adopt from within the country, because there are lots of children here who need homes too.

[dzdst796]

Originally Posted by Little32

If I ever did adopt, I would adopt from within the country, because there are lots of children here who need homes too.

You are so right about there being plenty of children right here in the USA that need good homes, especially Black children.

Also for people that are considering adopting children from abroad, that is an expensive undertaking. Every country has different laws regarding residency and other requirements. Be sure you understand exactly what is required prior to beginning that international journey.

Good luck to everyone who is considering adoption. From experience I will share that it takes a great deal of patience.

[OneTimeSBX]

it is such a toss up with some of these children now. were there drugs used during the pregnancy, any diseases, mental issues? my cousin was on drugs with her last child, the same child that the family wanted ME to adopt. i just couldnt risk it, her mother was a prostitute, strung out on crack, she swore she hadnt used crack the whole pregnancy. since this was her 8th child given up for adoption/taken away from her, the family insisted someone keep this one. i was not willing to risk the future problems that this child might encounter.

i love the idea of adopting. given the right conditions, i would consider it. it gives children a second chance. if these children with issues are going to be only children, i think it would work. seeing as how i have 2, i cant bring that into my family unless i know the complete background.

[dzdst796]

It is risky even when you have your kids naturally, but I completely understand how you feel. We were asked the same type of questions when we were going through the adoption process and I was honest with our social worker. We basically told her that we didn't want a special needs child and that we wanted a child that was healthy as possible. You never know what medical conditions might arise later on in childhood whether the child is biologically yours or not.

[RedefinedDiva]

I plan to adopt. I hope that I can adopt several kids and provide them with great lives. If I have the means, I want to provide for less fortunate kids.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by dzdst796

It is risky even when you have your kids naturally, but I completely understand how you feel. We were asked the same type of questions when we were going through the adoption process and I was honest with our social worker. We basically told her that we didn't want a special needs child and that we wanted a child that was healthy as possible. You never know what medical conditions might arise later on in childhood whether the child is biologically yours or not.

oh most definately...

[SummerChild]

DZDST796, Congrats!!!
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Originally Posted by dzdst796

You are so right about there being plenty of children right here in the USA that need good homes, especially Black children.

Also for people that are considering adopting children from abroad, that is an expensive undertaking. Every country has different laws regarding residency and other requirements. Be sure you understand exactly what is required prior to beginning that international journey.

Good luck to everyone who is considering adoption. From experience I will share that it takes a great deal of patience.

[SummerChild]

I've been thinking about planning for my future now so that I can financially and time-wise provide for a child later, should I decide to adopt. I think that I would like to adopt in about two years.

DZDST, how far in advance would you recommend someone getting the process started if the person would not actually want to be providing for a child for about two years from now?

I know that I would like to have child of my own at some point in the next few years but the way that things are going on the relationship front...shoot, you never can tell. LOL. Anyway, I am a little concerned that if I adopt, I may be "jumping the gun" so to speak when G-D may have someone for me that will provide me with children of my own (not that I want to actually have a child come out of my body...now that's scary. lol).

I now know what people mean by "planning for a family." Financially, and in terms of making sure that one has a job that will facilitate having a child ... especially as a single person, it's tough. Then, my Mother is only going to babysit but so long...eventually, I will have to start forking over daycare center payments. Whew.

ETA: If I did adopt, I think that I would want a child who is younger versus older b/c I would be concerned about dealing with the mental turmoil that a child may face by actually *remembering* being with his/her mother or father and being taken away and/or living in a foster facility. The older children that I see on the news are so beautiful, however, and they need homes too. We'll see.

Also, I have always thought that even if I had a couple of biological kids, I would hope that my husband and I (if I get married) can come to an agreement to adopt a couple of kids b/c I just think that if I have the financial resources and maybe the time, then why not? Why not do my part to contribute to our society in that way?

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[Honeykiss1974]

I have seriously considered adoption (as a single person) so I would adopt a child with no problem.

[TheEpitome1920]

I definitely plan to adopt...down the road. I would like to adopt from the state, primarily because there are no fees associated with it. Private agencies are ridiculously expensive. I'd like to adopt an older child, I've heard that once a child is over 5 they tend to have to age out of the system.

[Maat]

i'd love to adpot one day...i'd like to adopt 2 kids/youth in fact. simply because i think that as much as folks look to adopt the wee little ones, the older kids, the ones who REALLY need lots of love and positive encouragement to counter Lord knows what theyve had to deal with in their lives, are oft ignored/forgotten and they eventually 'age out' of the foster are system and more than likely become homeless or worse

[raggann03]

I will definitely adopt even if I have my own children. I used to work with CASA's and after seeing so many children lose their families I know how important it is.