Dropping letters, engagement, ect.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by Kevin

HQ would tell you that it varies from chapter to chapter.

But I'm sure they could throw out some hints, no?

[adpiucf]

It really just depends on you and what you want to do.

At some campuses, lavalieres are presented (a letter drop with your letters) as a way to show committment.

At others, you present her with your fraternity pin. Some organizations also have a "sweetheart pin" you can give to her.

And at still others, one may first "lavaliere" the lady, and then at a later date, present her with his pin/sweetheart pin.

If she is in a sorority, you may want to organize a serenade with your brothers and present it to her. Or give it to her on a romantic date.

You can bypass all of these things, of course, and propose to her or give her a promise ring, depending on "where you are" in the relationship. It just depends on what you feel comfortable with.

If you'd like to be married by the end of your senior year, most brides like about 1 year to plan the wedding, so if that is what you have in mind, plan accordingly if you'd like to propose to her.

[minDyG]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

If you'd like to be married by the end of your senior year, most brides like about 1 year to plan the wedding, so if that is what you have in mind, plan accordingly if you'd like to propose to her.

That's a pretty broad generalization. If I had taken an entire year to plan my wedding I would have been bored to tears. I think it only takes a year if it's going to be a grand affair.

On the other hand, to the OP, I think it's awesome that you're so in love with your girlfriend! She is obviously a lucky lady. Good luck with whatever you decide!

[ARSigmaNu]

Originally Posted by minDyG

That's a pretty broad generalization. If I had taken an entire year to plan my wedding I would have been bored to tears. I think it only takes a year if it's going to be a grand affair.

On the other hand, to the OP, I think it's awesome that you're so in love with your girlfriend! She is obviously a lucky lady. Good luck with whatever you decide!

We've already talked about it, and definitely are going to have at least a year engagement. We both have large extended families, and it's gonna be quite the event I'm sure.

I am still confused tho, if I give her the lavaliere, what is the pin dropping? And if I get the sweetheart pin is that something different, or does it replace one of the other two?

[adpiucf]

Talk to your bros and see what they think. It's kind of neat that your fraternity is new to campus b/c the things you do now are going to establish the traditions that future generations of men in your chapter will follow!

There's no hard and fast "rule" or procedure you have to follow for this. If you want to give her a laveliere, give her a laveliere. Or give her the sweetheart pin. You're setting the standard for your chapter! I wouldn't present her with your actual fraternity pin until you are out of school or about to graduate.

Either way, she's going to love whatever token of the fraternity you present her with-- and she will also love the candle pass her sisters will honor her with

[Kevin]

Again, because it deserves repetition, she doesn't get to wear the badge until y'all are at least engaged (at least according to the governing documents of Sigma Nu).

Aside from that, it's nothing binding, but that sweetheart pin is usually something only worn by the current and former chapter sweetheart, not individual girlfriends or fiancées. That's how my chapter treats it. I'm pretty sure that's open to interpretation though.

[banditone]

We did the same. That little mini badge necklace goes to Sweethearts (and back in the old days, Lil'Sisters of the White Rose).