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Originally Posted by UCFStefanie
Congrats on the New Member of the year. I didnt know that.
I also come from a small family in the chapter so I feel you on needing to have a little (though I never did)
I had a candlepass for my engagement. However there were so many people in the room we just did it 1 time around for friendship 2 time arround for lavilere/engagement/ etc.
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So at my chapter, what typically happened was that if you were the woman who had gotten lavieliered/pinned/engaged you found another member of the chapter. She made the sign to hang, told the president etc. Often instead of telling one of your closest friends, women would tell another member that they felt comfortable in confiding in, but that sisters wouldn't suspect one of her close friends as being the honoree if someone caught her with the candle/sign etc. This always lead to a lot of speculation about who the candlepassing was for and was half the fun.
Typically we lined up by class - freshmen, sophomores, juniors, and seniors. Our house mom would start it and pass it around once for friendship, always starting with the freshmen. Twice would mean lavieliered, three times for pinned and four times for engagement. I attended a lot of candlepassings in college and I think only one of them was ever for a pinning. I know one member of our chapter had five candlepassing when she was in school - three for lavieliering (yes, she got lavieliered by three different guys in three different fraternities), one for being pinned and one for being engaged.