Faith4Keep's Retro Recruitment!

Faith4Keep · #1 06-22-2007, 10:35 AM

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sherbertlemons · #3 06-22-2007, 11:10 AM

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Greek Week- At the end of Greek Week there is an awards ceremony where all awards are given out for "Chapter of the Year", "Best Philanthropy", "Highest Chapter GPA", among other awards. I was awarded New Member of the Year for all female greeks!

Last but not least.... - The night of homecoming serenades, my boyfriend came in to speak to our chapter. I thought that he was going to introduce Theta Chi, since I was sure they were going to serenade us, but he asked me to come to the front of the room where he gave me a lavalier!!! I felt this really solidified me being Greek! This was really exciting since a lot of my friends were seniors and teased me every time there was a candle pass, because they knew it was going to be me sooner or later! I was convinced that he was never going to give me a lavalier. So it was very exciting that my closest Theta sisters got to see me lavaliered before they graduated- although a candle pass at this point is pointless seeing as my sisters all already know! I think I'm still going to do one though, the first chapter with the new members in the fall- since every sorority girl dreams of the day when they get to do their own candle pass

Hey, congratulations on New Member of the Year! THat's terrific.

You should definitely still have a candle pass. Our chapter has had sisters that were so close to engaged that any time a candle pass was announced, sisters were looking at their hand for a ring! They still had a candle pass, so you should too!

tld221 · #4 06-22-2007, 11:30 AM

can i get a definition of what a candle pass is?

sherbertlemons · #5 06-22-2007, 11:37 AM

It varies a little from sorority to sorority and from campus to campus, but generally when a sister gets lavaliered or engaged, a candle pass is held. The sister will privately tell the chapter president that she needs a candle pass, and with my chapter they were generally held right after chapter meetings.

We would gather in a rather large circle, and a lit candle (fake, unfortunately) would be passed from sister to sister while we sang a Kappa song. The candle would be passed once for a lavaliere or twice for an engagment. (TrueBlueKappa, correct me if I'm wrong cause I can't count!)
When it arrived at the sister who the candle pass was for, she would blow the candle out. (Or in our case, turn the candle off.)

It's amazing how much less romantic a candle pass is with modern technology.

lyrelyre · #6 06-22-2007, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by sherbertlemons

It varies a little from sorority to sorority and from campus to campus, but generally when a sister gets lavaliered or engaged, a candle pass is held. The sister will privately tell the chapter president that she needs a candle pass, and with my chapter they were generally held right after chapter meetings.

We would gather in a rather large circle, and a lit candle (fake, unfortunately) would be passed from sister to sister while we sang a Kappa song. The candle would be passed once for a lavaliere or twice for an engagment. (TrueBlueKappa, correct me if I'm wrong cause I can't count!)
When it arrived at the sister who the candle pass was for, she would blow the candle out. (Or in our case, turn the candle off.)

It's amazing how much less romantic a candle pass is with modern technology.

Our candle passes were very similar (we called it a "candlelight”), except that you didn’t have to tell anyone at the chapter. All of the florists in town made bouquets (just like a bridesmaid’s bouquet) with a candle in the center. They would deliver it to the chapter house and it would sit on a table in the foyer all day, so everyone would see it (and make conjectures all day about who it was). Then, after dinner, we would pass it (once around for a lavaliere, twice for pinning, and three times for engagement-they were very uncommon at my chapter for anything other than engagement). We sang our sweetheart song while it was passed around the circle.

People would talk all day about who it was – the flowers were always a clue because we would think “whose favorite color is pink” or “Doesn’t Sarah love lilies?” Ah, memories.

My favorite candlelight was a girl in the pledge class just below mine. Her big and her twin were standing on either side of her. When she was holding the bouquet for the third time they blew it out. Her boyfriend (soon to be fiancé) came around the corner in full formal military dress, bowed, drew his sword, and presented her with a gorgeous ring on the end of the sword. So romantic...

alum · #7 06-22-2007, 01:17 PM

US actives would type up a sign and put it on the bulletin board that there would be a candlelight after the weekly meeting. Once around for lavaliere, twice for pin, 3x for engaged. Ususally at homecoming there would be a apecial candlelight session. I remember the candle went around 4 and 5 times for marriage and expecting baby announcements due to returning alumnae.

CrimsonBlues · #8 06-22-2007, 01:13 PM

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It's amazing how much less romantic a candle pass is with modern technology.

We always went outside to avoid the ban on lit candles in the house. The honking of cars passing by tended to kill the mood on occasion.

ISUKappa · #9 06-22-2007, 04:00 PM

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When it arrived at the sister who the candle pass was for, she would blow the candle out. (Or in our case, turn the candle off.)

Candlepassings were the *only* thing we still used real candles for (shhhhh). But seeing as we had maybe 1 every other year, it wasn't really an issue.

And the sister having the candlepass would decorate the candle and then slip it into the president's room [hopefully without anyone seeing her] and we would do the candlepass after dinner but before chapter on a Monday night.

Drolefille · #10 06-22-2007, 04:03 PM

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Candlepassings were the *only* thing we still used real candles for (shhhhh). But seeing as we had maybe 1 every other year, it wasn't really an issue.

And the sister having the candlepass would decorate the candle and then slip it into the president's room [hopefully without anyone seeing her] and we would do the candlepass after dinner but before chapter on a Monday night.

Ditto on the candlepassings being the only thing we used real candles for, but we had a few more than that. We probably had one every 3 weeks except for when we had a rush of them and then it was every chapter and even extra events like recruitment practice or something.

sherbertlemons · #11 06-22-2007, 04:24 PM

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Candlepassings were the *only* thing we still used real candles for (shhhhh). But seeing as we had maybe 1 every other year, it wasn't really an issue.

I'm from a young chapter. The fraternity kept a really sharp eye on us when I was in college, and so we couldn't get away with stuff like that.

What was really funny would be when the sister didn't know how to turn off the candle. You could tell she was trying to do it, but the light wouldn't turn off.

I love Kappa, and understand why that rule exists, but it sure can take the romance out of a candlelight.

ETA: How on earth did you guys manage to have that few candlelights? Would some sisters just choose not to have one?

adpiucf · #12 06-22-2007, 10:53 AM

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Maybe this is a topic for a new thread...

Only in some chapters do you get to wear letters on bid day! Theta, and some other chapters at UCF, are very strict on new members not having or wearing letters prior to initiation. We were only allowed to have shirts, totebags, and car stickers that spelled out "Kappa Alpha Theta" or "Theta", we could not have the actual greek letters... KAT was pushing it, but KAΘ was a big no-no! A lot of girls got talked to for this

ETA: Although the initiation ceremony itself was so incredible, when I was given my letters/jersey right after I was so excited I nearly cried!!!

I did see new members from other chapters walking around the first day of school- the day after bid day- with letters on their tote bags.

I just meant that the new members get Bid Day shirts

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Yeah, it is very cute!! Especially with the 'lion' theme. But I was disappointed after seeing it twice, since I was hoping they would change things up from year to year. I hear that ADPi gets a rush infraction for that every year because they keep new members at the door for too long. You don't have to confirm but I'm curious!

The chapter does not get an infraction for "In the Jungle." That's an urban legend... similar to the one at UCF that if one of that chapters likes you at recruitment, they put their hand on your shoulder (not true), that if you join XYZ you have to go to Bible Study (not true), or that as a member of ABC you will be subject to fat-circling by the active sisters. (not true)

The reality is that UCF has been trying to do away with door-song type entertainment since the no-frills movement started and every year, they try to get ADPi to stop doing "In the Jungle" and the same goes for the other chapters and any entertainment-style greeting they perform.

dukemama · #13 06-22-2007, 12:50 PM

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Only in some chapters do you get to wear letters on bid day! Theta, and some other chapters at UCF, are very strict on new members not having or wearing letters prior to initiation. We were only allowed to have shirts, totebags, and car stickers that spelled out "Kappa Alpha Theta" or "Theta", we could not have the actual greek letters... KAT was pushing it, but KAΘ was a big no-no! A lot of girls got talked to for this

Of the GLOs at my alma mater, Theta and Pi Phi are the 2 that I recall don't allow members to wear the Greek letters of their sororities' names until after initiation. I'd be curious to know if there are any others.

Loved your story, BTW. Congratulations to you and the Theta sisterhood!

Buttonz · #14 06-22-2007, 04:02 PM

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Of the GLOs at my alma mater, Theta and Pi Phi are the 2 that I recall don't allow members to wear the Greek letters of their sororities' names until after initiation. I'd be curious to know if there are any others.

We don't (at least my chapter didn't, and I'm pretty sure the other two CUNY chapters didn't either)

UCFStefanie · #15 06-22-2007, 05:10 PM

Congrats on the New Member of the year. I didnt know that.

I also come from a small family in the chapter so I feel you on needing to have a little (though I never did)

I had a candlepass for my engagement. However there were so many people in the room we just did it 1 time around for friendship 2 time arround for lavilere/engagement/ etc.