Sex Education in Public Schools

honeychile · #1 06-06-2007, 10:50 PM

I'm 100% in favor of sex education in ALL schools. While I'd like to say that parents should fulfill that role, and teach their children all about sex, they either are too embarrassed to do so, or are too uneducated themselves. In all honesty, I've told my own mother more about the physical aspect of sexual intercourse than she ever told me - and she was as thorough as she knew how to be.

We had serious sex education from 5th grade through 11th. We were taught on an age-appropriate level, and were told about birth control and STDs. By 9th grade, we had to know how to properly insert a diaphragm or use a condom for our grade (on models, not ourselves!). Anyone whose parents were against them hearing anything about abortion could be excused from that part - but I think hearing about exactly what happens with the different types of abortions is too informative to not hear - and this is from someone who is very much pro-life.

Students need to hear that especially the female body is designed to procreate, and what happens to various parts of the anatomy during sex. Once someone realizes that, it becomes easier to understand the importance of using one method over another, and to become more aware of her own body.

As for the parents, I think their role is to actively reinforce the emotional and spiritual side of sex, and to be open for questions. If they can't answer them, their duty as parents is to find out the right answers, even if it means discussing it with a school counselor.

ziasha07 · #2 06-07-2007, 12:17 AM

Absolutely! If all you teach is abstinence, when a student gets into a sexual encounter they will only be ignorant about the situation and unprepared. At that point, as an educator you have done nothing for your student in that respect. If anything, you've failed them. You can't expect every student to just accept abstinence, it's unrealistic. If we are taught proper sexual education, it will make us better prepared and equipped to make such a serious decision as whether to have sex or not.

mystikchick · #3 06-07-2007, 11:45 AM

absolutely!
i had comprehensive but age-appropriate sex-ed starting in 4th grade through 9th grade, some of which was reinforced in 11th grade IB/AP bio. you better believe i'm well educated as to the risks associated with being sexually active, the benefits of abstinence, the variety of different measures to protect myself from disease and pregnancy, and what to do (God forbid), if something fails.

i have two friends in college who did not have the benefit of such comprehensive education, and thus, as a 19 year old freshman, found myself assuring my friend that there was no human way possible that performing oral sex would result in pregnancy so long as none of the semen got anywhere near her vaginal opening and assuring another friend that bleeding after her first time was perfectly normal (she had had abstinence only education.) i have never felt so glad that i had the education i did as i did then.

knowing all there is to know has helped me make smart, informed decisions about my body and my health, and i think that's vital. sex shouldn't be turned into something taboo, teens should understand that if you have sex, you can get pregnant. but i think it is also important to emphasize the emotional/spiritual aspects of sex as well, because too many kids think it's something you can engage in casually and wind up hurt and damaged emotionally as a result.

overwhelming yes.

Coramoor · #4 06-07-2007, 02:32 PM

I'm sure this is a cliche line...but

We can't trust the public education system to teach little johnny long division or mandy US history, yet we trust these dumb ass teachers to teach them sex ed?

Yeah, right.

AlethiaSi · #5 06-07-2007, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Coramoor

I'm sure this is a cliche line...but

We can't trust the public education system to teach little johnny long division or mandy US history, yet we trust these dumb ass teachers to teach them sex ed?

Yeah, right.

But the education NEEDS to be there in the first place in addition to parental guidance.

As Mystikchick said, I had comprehensive sex education throughout elementary, middle and high school and I found myself in situations with friends answering questions that they were truly mystified about, because their PARENTS and SCHOOLS had not taught them otherwise.

Tom Earp · #6 06-07-2007, 03:26 PM

There better be besides the Birds an Bees!

Find out how the little one goes in the other thing in stead of learning about through electic plug ins!

How, how are babies mad: Stork, under a cabbage leaf, or the rubbing of noses!

The do rightess said it is wrong to show the Male penis and the female vigina and that is where it all starts! DAR!

Then these little suckers swim up stream as they have the hots for those little eggie things that make babies!

My Dad tried to tell me about sex as Mom told him to! I listened to his halting speech and said are you talking about having sex?

We never had that conversation again!

BetteDavisEyes · #7 06-07-2007, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Coramoor

We can't trust the public education system to teach little johnny long division or mandy US history, yet we trust these dumb ass teachers to teach them sex ed?

Yeah, right.

Well, as a "dumb ass teacher" as you so succinctly put, we do the best we can with the limited resources & training we get in this subject. Parents have the final say on what they will allow their child to hear in regards to sex ed. Many parents actually send in notes with demands as to what their child can hear from us and when we're to make them leave the room. There are a lot of dos and don'ts in this subject area. We can only tell them so much. The school I used to work at actually sent the students out to a different room where a RN (male for the boys and female for the girls) would walk them through body changes, sex, etc. Other schools have the teachers tell them the basic facts.

Unfortunately, many parents still have the attitude that sex is taboo and not to be spoken of so they refuse to sign the consent forms.

KSUViolet06 · #8 06-08-2007, 12:05 AM

Yes it should be. I think there should at least be some education about male/female reproductive systems, puberty (and what it entails for both males/females), the reproductive process (sex & conception).

As far as contraceptives & abstinence, I think those things should BOTH be covered briefly as well. Students should know that sex is a choice, and that they can choose to abstain from sex. Likewise, if students choose to have sex, they need to know about how to prevent diseases & pregnancy.

*I also think that there should be an option for parents to sign something if they do not want their kids to participate, since everyone has different attitudes about sex.

ziasha07 · #9 06-08-2007, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes

Well, as a "dumb ass teacher" as you so succinctly put, we do the best we can with the limited resources & training we get in this subject. Parents have the final say on what they will allow their child to hear in regards to sex ed. Many parents actually send in notes with demands as to what their child can hear from us and when we're to make them leave the room. There are a lot of dos and don'ts in this subject area. We can only tell them so much. The school I used to work at actually sent the students out to a different room where a RN (male for the boys and female for the girls) would walk them through body changes, sex, etc. Other schools have the teachers tell them the basic facts.

Unfortunately, many parents still have the attitude that sex is taboo and not to be spoken of so they refuse to sign the consent forms.

In my school system, the parents only sign foms if the DON'T want their children to go.

honeychile · #10 06-08-2007, 11:09 AM

I want to add to my own post, that abstinence was very much part of the program, too.

I can remember one point very vividly. Bearing in mind that we had to sit boy-girl-boy-girl, the teachers (always one male, one female) passed around a grapefruit. Then the teacher said how many of the girls complained about cramps every month, which was the result of a heavy period. He then said, "if you think having menstrual cramps are bad, think about this grapefruit. It's roughly the size of a baby's head. Think about the cramps that would go along with that!"

I should also add that I graduated with over 700 in my class. There were exactly two pregnancies in my entire class! Knowledge is power!

I apologize in advance if that's too graphic for some.