Senusret I's Recruitment Story

[neosoul]

I'm thinking maybe Kappa Alpha Psi?

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by neosoul

I'm thinking maybe Kappa Alpha Psi?

Well, it's interesting to note that of the remaining 4 fraternities, theirs was the only web site where I was unable to find a listing of their notable alumni.

[Senusret I]

Then I revisited Mr. Marcus.

Since Mr. Marcus was my first love, I really wanted to be SURE that I didn't have any lingering feelings for him.

Honestly speaking, Mr. Marcus is a great organization. I love their history and rich traditions. I like the fact that they have their very own culture. When their members finally grow up, they are real gentlemen. REAL gentlemen!

The problem is they don't grow up until 55, LOL.

But no, seriously..... the one thing that I had against Mr. Marcus was that in my experiences the membership of today was so far away from the ideals of the organization, both what they portray on their website and contemporary literature as well as the more historical aspects.

Their programming is on point, theoretically -- but all I saw was the parties.

In a crowd full of them at a step show, I saw ONE that was like me..... while everyone was being "owt" there was this one Mr. Marcus wearing glasses and sitting with his hands folded.

Did I want to pledge to be around people who were nothing like me? Did I want to pledge to fit a stereotype that was not in line with my values?

To this day I have the utmost respect for the organization and the members who continue to make its history -- but when I revisited the issue, I was one hundred percent certain that Mr. Marcus was not in my heart.

That only left Mandingo and Brian Pumper.

[Wolfman]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Then I revisited Mr. Marcus.

Since Mr. Marcus was my first love, I really wanted to be SURE that I didn't have any lingering feelings for him.

Honestly speaking, Mr. Marcus is a great organization. I love their history and rich traditions. I like the fact that they have their very own culture. When their members finally grow up, they are real gentlemen. REAL gentlemen!

The problem is they don't grow up until 55, LOL.

But no, seriously..... the one thing that I had against Mr. Marcus was that in my experiences the membership of today was so far away from the ideals of the organization, both what they portray on their website and contemporary literature as well as the more historical aspects.

Their programming is on point, theoretically -- but all I saw was the parties.

In a crowd full of them at a step show, I saw ONE that was like me..... while everyone was being "owt" there was this one Mr. Marcus wearing glasses and sitting with his hands folded.

Did I want to pledge to be around people who were nothing like me? Did I want to pledge to fit a stereotype that was not in line with my values?

To this day I have the utmost respect for the organization and the members who continue to make its history -- but when I revisited the issue, I was one hundred percent certain that Mr. Marcus was not in my heart.

That only left Mandingo and Brian Pumper.

As a die hard 27-year member of Mr. Marcus who doesn't fit the so-called stereotype, I think I understand where you are coming from but with a superficial view you will miss the beauty of Mr. Marcus. Mr. Marcus exemplifies what a college fraternity should be about:a real, robust brotherhood where the values and bonds of fraternity are sacred. You have to have depth and passion. It's not for the self-inflated, faux elitist or social butterfly. It's for real men--I say this as an occasional loving critic of the goings on in Mr. Marcus. Once a Founder of Mr. Marcus said of Brian Pumper,' it's not a fraternity;it's a social club.' But alas, there is a fraternity for everyone's tastes. Be the best BP you can be!

[Little32]

Originally Posted by Wolfman

Once a Founder of Mr. Marcus said of Brian Pumper,' it's not a fraternity;it's a social club.'

Hmmm...........


Great thread Pham!

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by Wolfman

As a die hard 27-year member of Mr. Marcus who doesn't fit the so-called stereotype, I think I understand where you are coming from but with a superficial view you will miss the beauty of Mr. Marcus. Mr. Marcus exemplifies what a college fraternity should be about:a real, robust brotherhood where the values and bonds of fraternity are sacred. You have to have depth and passion. It's not for the self-inflated, faux elitist or social butterfly. It's for real men--I say this as an occasional loving critic of the goings on in Mr. Marcus. Once a Founder of Mr. Marcus said of Brian Pumper,' it's not a fraternity;it's a social club.' But alas, there is a fraternity for everyone's tastes. Be the best BP you can be!

Did you hear that noise? That was the point sailing way over your head.

[Senusret I]

In another life, I would have been a Mandingo, and a great one!

In completing my research of NPHC fraternities, I finally came to Mandingo. If you recall, one of my coworkers was a new Mandingo at DC's state college. He took me to my first collegiate NPHC event. He didn't care that I wasn't interested in his org.

When I was in college, I befriended a grad student -- also a Mandingo! We ended up becoming VERY close over the years. We kept in great touch as he continued grad study, and I visited him out in Ohio last year.

Wherever I went, Mandingo men were always cordial, kind, respectful.... they had a tight bond with their official sisters but also seemed cool with ALL sorority women.

I never once felt uncomfortable in a room full of Mandingos.

Their national service program, their public mottos, their traditions...they were all in line with my values. How they looked and acted was representative of the kind of person that I was (and am).

But when I read their history, I just wasn't moved like I was when I read the histories of Mr. Marcus and Brian Pumper. When I looked at their roster of prominent members, once again -- as in the case of Wesley Pipes -- there was a Brian Pumper who outshined their member in any given field of endeavor. And much like Lexington Steele, could I really come back to my family and friends with...well.... only goodness, when I could come back with greatness?

That was an intense internal battle I had.... if I was looking for my "home" as so many NPCers say, then why couldn't I find my home with Mandingos? I was shown nothing but the utmost brotherhood from them. I was 99 percent certain that the Mandingos would accept me just as I was.

But something just didn't feel right in my soul. Just because I could be a Mandingo doesn't mean I should be.

And that left only Brian Pumper...... but why did Brian's history move me so? Why were Brian's prominent members a universe apart from any other fraternity? What was it that made me so comfortable around other Brian Pumpers? And what was it about Brian's national programs that fell in line so personally with my own values?

[Lil' Hannah]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

In another life, I would have been a Mandingo, and a great one!

Amazing.

[Sugar08]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

But something just didn't feel right in my soul. Just because I could be a Mandingo doesn't mean I should be.

I love this. That's exactly how it should be.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Wolfman

As a die hard 27-year member of Mr. Marcus who doesn't fit the so-called stereotype, I think I understand where you are coming from but with a superficial view you will miss the beauty of Mr. Marcus. Mr. Marcus exemplifies what a college fraternity should be about:a real, robust brotherhood where the values and bonds of fraternity are sacred. You have to have depth and passion. It's not for the self-inflated, faux elitist or social butterfly. It's for real men--I say this as an occasional loving critic of the goings on in Mr. Marcus. Once a Founder of Mr. Marcus said of Brian Pumper,' it's not a fraternity;it's a social club.' But alas, there is a fraternity for everyone's tastes. Be the best BP you can be!

Wolfman, I think part of what Senusret was saying is that the members of Mr. Marcus he met just didn't hammer away hard enough at what the traditions of the fraternity were about. I'm sure there are Mr. Marcuses out there that have no problem driving the point home!

[Wolfman]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Wolfman, I think part of what Senusret was saying is that the members of Mr. Marcus he met just didn't hammer away hard enough at what the traditions of the fraternity were about. I'm sure there are Mr. Marcuses out there that have no problem driving the point home!

Understood. I respect Senusret's experience and enjoy his storytelling, which I like very much. In some ways I identify with him; before I pledged Mr. Marcus, the only things I heard about Mr. Marcus was negative. To the outsider I don't fit the "stereotype" of Mr. Marcus but that's where I belong. I grew as a man out of my engagement with the ethos of Mr. Marcus, not because they necessarily mirrored my personality but because of the ideals and the quality of brotherhood exhibited.It's very challenging;it's not for everyone. An analogy: if Brian Pumper is the US Army,Mr. Marcus is the French Foreign Legion.

From what he's shared on GC and in this thread, he's where he should be. What he values is in concert with Brian Pumper. There is an ideological divide between Mr. Marcus and Brian Pumper which is grounded in history, which I commented on. It has nothing to do with the stereotype Senusret refers to about Mr. Marcus or the contemporary nasty one about Brian Pumper.

[cuteASAbug]

You don't have to keep on referring to your fraternity as Mr. Marcus. It's in your signature. We all know what fraternity you're in.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by neosoul

I'm thinking maybe Kappa Alpha Psi?

That is my impression as well.