Retro Recruitment

ClassicBeauty · #1 05-31-2007, 08:31 PM

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3. Some bad things I did as a PNM (or things I didn't do that I would go back and fix if I could): I let my worries about being poorly versed in recruitment make me nervous; I didn't get recs for every house; I didn't think through my outfits for recruitment beforehand. I know the last two seem silly, but man, they're both so true. Also, this isn't in my notes, but when a house asked me what other parties I was attending, I listed them... stupid, stupid, stupid.

Well, since I'm going through rush in a few months, what answer should I give when a house asks me what other parties I'm attending? That sort of puts someone in an awkward situation.

dgdramadawg · #2 05-31-2007, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ClassicBeauty

Well, since I'm going through rush in a few months, what answer should I give when a house asks me what other parties I'm attending? That sort of puts someone in an awkward situation.

I would just say you're really glad to be at that house and hope that's the end of it. Like others have said, they really shouldn't be asking that (but some people do anyway).

lindz0722 · #3 05-31-2007, 09:38 PM

out of sheer desperation during a conversation with a girl who REALLY did not want to be at my house during recruitment, i asked her that question. her response was "i really don't feel comfortable sharing that"-- polite, but sure as hell put me in my place!!

UGAalum94 · #4 06-01-2007, 10:22 AM

It shouldn't have been asked.

It's certainly not your fault it was asked, and it shouldn't have been held against you that you answered honestly, but you might be on to something about your rusher concluding that you would be more interested in the other chapters.

It's really a shame she didn't have more confidence in her group, really, if you think about it.

I'm glad things worked out overall!

This was an especially interesting and educational thread for me. Thanks for posting it!

AOE2AlphaPhi · #5 06-01-2007, 10:37 AM

Someone asked me that during recruitment, and I was embarassed by the answer, because the chapter where I was was the only one I was interested in at that point. I already knew the girl who did it pretty well, so I don't know if that's better or not. I definately felt like I HAD to answer.

dgdramadawg · #6 06-01-2007, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by AOE2AlphaPhi

Someone asked me that during recruitment, and I was embarassed by the answer, because the chapter where I was was the only one I was interested in at that point. I already knew the girl who did it pretty well, so I don't know if that's better or not. I definately felt like I HAD to answer.

Well, at least if the chapter you're at is the only one you're interested in you can say "This is the only chapter that I am visiting that I am interested in pledging." I would think it's kind of hard to argue with that.

AnatraAmore · #7 06-01-2007, 04:16 PM

During recruitment my freshmen year (before I transferred), I was asked this question on Pref Night by the only chapter I was preffing... I answered that I was only attending that party that night. The girl who was preffing me told me that maybe that was best. I agreed with her, but the rest of the party was strained and awkward. In hindsight, I'm not sure why... but it was. I didn't receive a bid from that chapter - but it really was for the best. I transferred back home the next semester and found my real home!

Moral of the story: Don't ask that question. It can make things very awkward.