Pregnant Yet Interested: What are your thoughts?

Confucius · #1 05-27-2007, 10:44 AM

I just read this.....I didn't have a clue that the last post was in 2003!

AKA2D '91 · #2 05-27-2007, 10:45 AM

LMAO!

RedefinedDiva · #3 05-27-2007, 12:02 PM

Since it's rare that people use the SEARCH function and bring old threads back to the top, I usually don't look at the dates. But when I started reading the thread and saw the number of pages there were, I saw that this thread was about four years old.

LOL!

ladygreek · #4 05-27-2007, 12:55 PM

We had two pregnant women on our last line. One had her baby three days before initiation and she never missed a beat--okay except for those few hours they keep you in the hospital. We were just happy she didn't go into labor at initiation - lol.

delph998 · #5 05-30-2007, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ladygreek

We had two pregnant women on our last line. One had her baby three days before initiation and she never missed a beat--okay except for those few hours they keep you in the hospital. We were just happy she didn't go into labor at initiation - lol.

You're right. Both girls didn't miss a beat.

cutielocks08 · #6 09-21-2009, 06:31 PM

I didn't get to see the original question(was it deleted by the OP?).

I'm sure that depends upon both the individual and the chapter. As to whether someone should entertain the idea, I think it's not a good idea especially at the undergraduate level. Being young, a student and a soon-to-be mother are a lot on a person's plate. If asked, I would advise a young lady to wait until her child is born and older and she finishes school so she is more financially stable. My views don't change even if the young lady is married, but I'd especially advise young single moms-to-be to wait.

As to grad chapter, if a young lady were financially stable and pregnant(single OR married), if she possessed the qualities of a qualified candidate, I'd advise her to go for it after her baby is born and is a year or older. I know young married woman in this position and I advised her to wait.

As another poster stated, an invitation to membership is a privilege, not a right. Pregnancy and motherhood to an infant are both physically taxing and emotionally demanding, as active membership in a sorority can be as well. Trying to tackle both as an undergrad while being a student AND a mother (whose first priority should be her child) might be unfair to the chapter, her co-initiates/line sisters and the child. Additionally, the child will only be an infant for so long and those moments with the child are precious and fleeting. If she really wants it, AKA can wait and graduate chapter is always an option down the road.

As to my personal views on the married candidate vs. single candidate, I'm definitely "old school".

BahamaMama05 · #7 09-24-2009, 07:36 PM

One must always think about the child's welfare in any situation; that is paramount. However, if you feel like you can handle both MIP and the child, and if a chapter has extended to you an invitation, then go for it.

deepimpact2 · #8 10-10-2009, 01:41 PM

I've read some of the posts, and I'm not sure about what the issue is. Is it that morally people shouldn't be trying to join if they are unwed and pregnant, or is it a concern about the physical rigors and how that might be impacted with a pregnancy?

I have a friend who crossed DST at a school (years ago) and one of her linesisters was pregnant during the entire process. She even stepped and never had any problems. That being said, everyone can't do that. I personally would not advise someone who is pregnant to try and go through initiation until after they have the baby. Safety and health come first.

ladygreek · #9 10-10-2009, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by deepimpact2

I have a friend who crossed DST at a school (years ago) and one of her linesisters was pregnant during the entire process. She even stepped and never had any problems.

This statement bothers me. Did she perform community service and keep up her studies without any problems?

SummerChild · #10 05-29-2007, 06:36 PM

Soror, I responded to your PM about another matter.
SC

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Originally Posted by RedefinedDiva

Since it's rare that people use the SEARCH function and bring old threads back to the top, I usually don't look at the dates. But when I started reading the thread and saw the number of pages there were, I saw that this thread was about four years old.

LOL!